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  • Come As You Are: Revised and Updated

  • The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
  • Written by: Emily Nagoski PhD
  • Narrated by: Emily Nagoski, Nicholas Boulton
  • Length: 11 hrs and 30 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (344 ratings)

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Written by: Emily Nagoski PhD
Narrated by: Emily Nagoski, Nicholas Boulton
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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times best seller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently - and far less seriously - than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2015, 2021 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Game changer

This is the book I’ve been waiting for. A book that didn’t tell me “how to get better” or “how to overcome your trauma” - even though that’s what I was originally looking for, because society was telling me I was broken. This was a book telling me that I am normal and that my sexuality is normal, regardless of what I’ve been told my entire life as a cis-gender, heterosexual female. Thank you, Emily.

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Total game changer

I was recommended this book when I was in the "pit of despair", as Emily Nagoski says, and it helped me immensely understanding and accepting my sexuality. Every women should read this book.

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A couples digest.

I wanted to give this 5 starts all around, but I thought it was lacking when it came to the self. Most chapters focused on relationships and all subjected detailed in the book are in relationships. I assumed that the author would dive more into self-love and overcoming on our own. Not everyone is in a monogamous relationship with another, and this book almost made me feel like we need a partner to help fix us. Aside from my own opinion above, I still learned a lot and enjoyed the authors style as well as the thorough, but easy to read science. I still suggest this book to friends, just not necessarily my single friends.

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Excellent information and narration

Love how Emily talks directly to the listener and connects with every question and concern that a woman has about her body and how sex has or hasn’t happened for her. She delivers science in approachable and understandable bites that make the discussion format more than just talking with a best friend - you’re hearing from a trusted therapist, who is able to reassure you that you’re “normal” and to trust your body and experiences.
Didn’t learn most of this in nursing school, and definitely didn’t learn this from society.
A must read for all women from 18-98.

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Eye opening

This book talks about real life situations, making uncomfortable subjects become simple, and backed with science.

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Life changing

One of the most important books I’ve ever read. The author speaks so concisely and emotionally to women. If there was ever feelings you couldn’t quite put the words to, listen to this book. Such amazing advice that spills into so much more than your sex life. The audio was perfect and the music was spot on. Thank you for writing this!

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So much more than just sex

I actually cried at more than one point in the first chapter alone. There were so many things I hadn't even known I needed to hear, and so much of it was only tangentially related to sex. This book is worth it for the messages of self-acceptance alone. For how to reduce stress. For how to recognize the lies that society tells us are true and weed them out of our gardens (and, oh wow, do I love that garden metaphor). Better sex is just a bonus after all that. I feel like a better me.

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It changed my sex life

I loved this book. Now I just want to share it with the world! Seriously, everyone should have access to this book.

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great narration, excellent information

every woman should listen to this book. amazing information that everyone needs to hear.

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epiphany after epiphany

This book went beyond my expectations. I thought it was gonna be a book that taught me more about my own body and my own self but instead it taught me about me about cultural influences, Biology, and our own internal biases

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