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  • A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)
  • Written by: Dr Robert Glover
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  • Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (711 ratings)

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No More Mr. Nice Guy

Written by: Dr Robert Glover
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“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models.

“I have read every self-help book out there, but this was the first that put everything together in a way that made perfect sense to me.”

“Every page of my copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy is highlighted in yellow. How did you know me so well?

A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others.

The Nice Guy Syndrome typically begins in infancy and childhood when a young boy inaccurately internalizes emotional messages about himself and the world. It is fueled by toxic shame and anxiety. Rapid social change in the late 20th century and early 21st century has contributed to a worldwide explosion of men struggling to find happiness, love, and purpose.

The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. Nice Guys believe:

  • If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.
  • If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
  • If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.

The inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to often feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, dishonesty, caretaking, fixing, codependency, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, passive-aggressiveness, unsatisfying relationships, issues with sexuality, and compulsive masturbation and pornography use.

Since the publication of No More Mr. Nice Guy in 2003, hundreds of thousands of men worldwide have learned how to release toxic shame, soothe their anxiety, face their fears, connect with men, embrace their passion and purpose, and experience success in work and career. These men have also learned to set boundaries, handle conflict, make their needs a priority, develop satisfying relationships, and experience great sex.

This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:

  • Depression
  • Social anxiety and shyness
  • Codependency
  • Low self-esteem
  • Loneliness and hopelessness
  • Feelings of failure
  • Lack of confidence and purpose
  • Compulsive behaviors and addictions
  • Feeling stuck in life

Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls Integrated Males. Becoming integrated does not mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of oneself. An integrated male can embrace everything that makes him unique - his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his fears, his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side.

If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how.

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

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A tremendously practical resource

I have just finished the book and am already implementing the exercises with success.
The key thing is - if liberating yourself from a "nice guy" existence makes you fearful - good! That is the feeling of an impending breakthrough to the freedom of being your true self.

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Will definitely re read and do the action steps

It was speaking to me! Need to re-read. Highly recommend for anyone who considers themselves to be a nice guy.

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Incredible!

this book is truly incredible! Dr.Robert Glover. Thank you for bringing this to the world!

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One of the best books

It described many of the issues I had and how to solve them. I am glad I listened to this book, it was life-changing for me.

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life changing

I have never had a book speak to me and my life so much.
Every man should read this book.

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Par l'exemple !

un des rares livres sur le sujet qui est explicite et regorge d'exemple applicable pour améliorer la situation.

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incredible book

it was a great book that really resonated with me. if you are a nice guy this book will help you understand how to truly be nice by being nice to you.

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this is an amazing book

I have been living like a scared little boy, I am done putting up with other people opinions of what I am capable of.

I'm taking charge of my life starting right now

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A Must Read for All Those Nice Guys Out there.

Looking for practical solutions to solve your Mr. Nice Guy dilemmas? Dr. Robert Glover guides you from the man you are to the man that you want to be.

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Never again,… Do “Nice guys finish last”!

Nice guys used to finish last,… That is,… Until they read this book… -A whole new paradigm and world view unleashed!! a mind blowing step by step analysis and process to cure you’re a nice guy syndrome, without having to become aloof, a prick, a bad boy, a goof, or the entertainer to compensate,… How to become a sophisticated, competent, masculine male, the right way!

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