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  • How the Best Marriages Work
  • Written by: Eli J. Finkel
  • Narrated by: Mark Deakins
  • Length: 8 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (14 ratings)

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The All-or-Nothing Marriage

Written by: Eli J. Finkel
Narrated by: Mark Deakins
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Publisher's Summary

"After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...." (Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success) 

Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. 

The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages - from the "traditional" to the utterly nontraditional - and shows how any marriage can be better. 

The primary functions of marriage from 1620 to 1850 were food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marraige has emerged, one oriented toward self-discovery, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try "lovehacks". 

This is a book for the newlywed to the empy nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today. 

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©2017 Eli J. Finkel (P)2017 Penguin Audio

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“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now. In his All-or-Nothing Marriage, Eli Finkel reveals the fascinating ways in which marriage has evolved and the things we can all do to help this all-important relationship flourish. You will definitely want to read this book.” (Carol Dweck, Stanford professor and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

“If you’ve ever wondered what science has to say about how marriage has changed over time and what makes for a great one, this is the book to read. Eli Finkel is one of the world’s leading experts on relationships, and his insights are both comprehensive and revealing.” (Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B, coauthored with Sheryl Sandberg)  

“Eli Finkel has written an incredible analysis of the state of marriage and a useful guide for everyone trying to make their relationship work better. He also promised us cheeseburgers if we wrote this blurb. Please get those to us ASAP, Eli.” (Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg, coauthors of Modern Romance)

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Not Bad.

The Author spends the first half of the book justifying his methodology and research. No one cares bud! Just give us the goods. I don't care how you came to the conclusions just give me the techniques. If they work they work. If they don't they don't. I am not checking your footnotes either way! The books could have been half as long which imho would make it twice as effective because I feel more then half the readers would give up as the academic jargon is over their head.

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Good advice slow start

Don’t get discouraged at the beginning. The history was a bit obvious and not what I was looking for but there is a lot of good advice and insight here.

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