Episode Summary:

In this episode, Fernanda Souza and Ana discuss the complexities of sexuality, particularly in midlife. They explore how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sexuality and relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of intentionality in maintaining erotic connections and the need for open discussions about sexuality with future generations. Key insights include the distinction between sexuality and sex, the evolving nature of women's sexual experiences, and the necessity of education in fostering healthy relationships.

Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile]

Guest: Fernada Souza [Instagram | website]

Key Takeaways:

• Sexuality is relevant throughout life, not just in youth.
• Midlife can bring challenges to sexual intimacy due to various life demands.
• Intentionality is crucial for maintaining erotic connections in relationships.
• Women often transition from being objects of desire to subjects of their own desire in midlife.
• Education about sexuality is essential for personal and relational growth.
• Complacency in long-term relationships can lead to dissatisfaction.
• Creating erotic space requires effort and planning, not just spontaneity.
• Open conversations about sexuality with children are vital for their understanding.
• The brain plays a significant role in sexual experiences and desires.
• Understanding the difference between sexuality and sex can enhance intimacy.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Topic of Sexuality

00:49 Exploring Midlife and Sexuality

03:19 Defining Sexuality vs. Sex

07:52 The Role of Women in Sexuality

12:34 The Impact of Caretaking on Sexuality

18:18 Exploring Gender Dynamics in Relationships

24:48 The Evolution of Women's Sexuality

31:47 The Importance of Sexual Education

36:06 Key Takeaways and Resources for Sexual Awareness

Resources:

Come as you are and Come together by Emily Nagoski

So tell me about the last time you had sex by Ian Kerner

Taking sexy back by Alexandra Solomon

Untrue by Wednesday Martin

Mating in captivity and State of Affairs by Esther Perel

Tell me what you want and The Psychology of Human Sexuality by Justin Lehmiller

Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond