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Why can’t I relax, even when I finally have the time?
If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon unpacks why rest can feel unsafe when you’re stuck in survival mode, and what your nervous system is really trying to protect you from.

We explore the difference between hyperarousal (fight-or-flight) and hypoarousal (freeze and shutdown), why traditional self-care tools often fall short, and how to begin building safety in the body — even if you’ve spent years feeling “on” all the time.

You’ll learn:

• Why your nervous system resists stillness and how to respond with compassion
• The role of the vagus nerve and why “just relax” doesn’t work
• Gentle regulation tools you can use today (no apps, no pressure)
• How to work with your body, not against it, for real emotional healing
• A simple reflection to help you reconnect to presence, even in the chaos

This episode is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself for being burnt out and start learning how to feel safe enough to soften.

If you’re tired of surviving and ready to feel more grounded in your own skin, this episode is for you.

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