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The State of Affairs
- Rethinking Infidelity
- Written by: Esther Perel
- Narrated by: Esther Perel
- Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins
An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.
A Romantic’s View
- By Amazon Customer on 2018-04-18
Although I found the beginning of this book to be quite interesting, I found the ending chapters quite disappointing. The overall conclusion of this book is that non-monogamous arrangements are the solution to infidelity. To me this is akin to saying the cure for obesity is to indulge and eat even more. Controlling sexual impulses is just like controlling the appetite. Sure indulging feels great at first, but over time you sacrifice the character building that only comes from telling your immature amygdala “no” in the face of temptation.
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