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Woman with Brain

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It didn't sink in until the second listen!

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 2021-01-04

The first time I listened to The F It Diet was about a year ago, I loved it, but I was just coming off a "successful" run on the Keto Diet. I say successful because I lost a bunch of weight, but it was unsuccessful because of some concerning chest pains. My doctor said no more keto, and within 2 months, I gained back a bunch of weight I had lost. I found this unacceptable so I went on a completely fat-free, low calorie, plant-based diet. I lost exactly 0 pounds in 8 months. My excuses included: my body holds on to carbs, I just can't lose weight without doing keto, I was diagnosed with PCOS a long time ago..., etc.

Then, for over 100 days, I was intermittently fasting. It started as an 8-hour eating window, averaging about 1400 calories a day. No weight-loss. So, I restricted to one eating-hour a day, 1200 calories, 23 hours fasting. I did well for about a month. I lost 10 pounds. And then one day at work, I couldn't fit in all my food into that one hour, I didn't want to eat it all. Then I began to panic about how long it would take me to eat my food for that day. Would I ruin my fast? I began to panic. I felt hungry all night and obsessed over food and what I would eat. I was in complete despair.

The next day, I woke up, after 25 years of dieting off and on and decided I was done. That's when I listened to this book again, and this time I got it. I really got it. If you're looking for a specific plan and you don't know what to eat - that is your diet mentality talking to you. You are supposed to eat whatever you want, even if that's chips and soda, because guess what? One day, sooner than you think, you won't just want chips and soda. Caroline teaches that the sooner you let go of your diet mentality and honor your hunger - no matter how scary that feels - the better!

So I am 4 weeks in. I have eaten way more than I have ever allowed myself to before. I don't check the mirror, I don't associate guilt with what I eat, I don't go on the scale, my clothes are snug - I consider this re-feeding my hungry ass self. Yes, there were cookies, so many cookies in the first week. Now, I think about them WAY less. I can see that I don't obsess over food as much already. I looked at my dozens of cookbooks today - and told them to eff off. Look, I am just done dieting. The cycle of deprivation and bingeing makes so much sense. I understand now that it is not my fault, no one can restrict their diet, over-exercise, and hate their bodies forever and have any semblance of a life. I am already thinking about food way less, and that feels like a huge win already.

So, my advice? If you are really tired of hating yourself, falling off the diet wagon, trying every new Whole30, WW, Keto, Paleo, BeachBody program - you are ready for this book. You will gain weight when you allow yourself food, when you no longer restrict, but over time, you won't want so much food - you won't even think about it like you once did. You know, when you felt like a ravenous animal totally out of control? That wasn't you! That was a symptom of restriction and dieting.

Thank you Caroline for going through this process and telling us how you did it.

If you do like more structure and "steps" you may like the book Intuitive Eating, I have read that too, but I'm so over steps and being told how and what to eat or that exercise is "good for me" - yeah thanks, I will file this info under my "Duh" file. Real intuitive eating is just what Caroline says, throw out all the rules, eat, rest, move if it makes you feel good. You will eat more in the beginning, but once your brain understands that nothing is off limits, you won't eat as much. Our bodies are smarter than any app or calorie counter. Trust it.

Other resources I like on this topic: Stephanie Buttermore and Kayla Rose on YouTube.

Not what I expected

Overall
2 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
2 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 2020-03-11

I will say that I may have a bias because Love Warrior just lit me up from the inside out. It is the benchmark to which I may be comparing Untamed to. I really wanted this to be a continuous flow from the story of her life in Love Warrior to Untamed. I had hoped she would talk more about the dissolution of her marriage, and how she learned to be alone. But she didn't have alone time, she went right from her marriage to her relationship with Abby. Abby is presented as this sort of magical presence in her life that completes her. It kind of feels unfair. It's as though her truth and her ability to be fully alive was only discovered when she laid eyes on Abby.

That's just too sing-songy for me. I yearned for the grit Doyle is known for in her writing. This book did not deliver for me in that department.

There's also a preachy feel to this book, like a blueprint on how to navigate life as a woman, but I don't want advice. I'm here for your story Glennon, I don't want you to tell me how to be, how to exist, how to be still. I don't want you to know it all and have all the answers... I want your fears and doubts and second guesses. I want that real and authentic stuff no one talks about - the stuff that scares me beyond measure.

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