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Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage

Written by: Beth McCord, Jeff McCord
Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins

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Becoming Us is a wake-up call for couples who feel stagnant, revealing what happens when two people in a committed relationship risk seeing each other from a fresh perspective.

Couples often enter into marriage with a potentially harmful assumption: they assume they “know” themselves and their spouse. The reality is that whether a couple’s been married a few months or many decades, conflict and misunderstandings happen. Beth and Jeff McCord provide a glimpse into how the Enneagram, used from a biblical perspective, brings astonishing clarity to couples so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear and shame, by knowing and experiencing the unconditional love, forgiveness, and freedom they have in Christ. Beth and Jeff guide couples through discovering their Enneagram type and core motivations, as well as those of their spouse, gaining insight into how their family of origin shapes the way they relate to their spouse, and understanding what “assumicide” is and how to put a stop to it. Couples are made for an intimate and thriving marriage relationship. For those baffled by the person sleeping beside them and looking for an instruction manual, Becoming Us serves as a roadmap for couples to transform into the best versions of themselves-together.

©2019 Beth and Jeff McCord (P)2019 Beth and Jeff McCord

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-16

Good book but didn’t care for the Audible version

I have been learning about the Enneagram and love Beth McCord!! I listen to a lot audible books, but did not care for this one due to the Narrators. Their voices sound robotic, so I found myself zoning out a lot. I prefer audible books where the Author is the narrator. Other than that I would recommend... just not the audible version.

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  • Shari Oliver
  • 2019-08-16

Marriage Magnificent

Berh and Jeff lead you through the enneagram in light of the gospel in a way that sheds such light on yourself and how you connect to others, spouses especially!

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  • Joshua
  • 2019-09-29

One of the best books on the Enneagram!

Becoming Us by the McCords is one of the best books on the enneagram I've now read! They balance their story and an explanation of the enneagram well. My favorite things about this book is that it is unashamedly centered around the gospel message and the enneagram is used as a tool to better understand one's self and others through the lens of the gospel message. I would recommend this book to those who are well versed in the enneagram and the newcomer looking to learn more.

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  • Crystal
  • 2019-09-19

Excellent read. practical help for couples

The authors vulnerably share how their Enneagram types contributed to the the difficulties in the early years of their marriage. This book is insightful and packed with practical ways to grow in understanding yourself and your spouse,.

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  • Nicki Carnes
  • 2019-09-13

Incredible book with practical wisdom

This is an incredible book that offers practical wisdom for understanding your spouse on a deeper level. Jeff and Beth share there story and their personal testimony of how discovering the enneagram helped strengthen their marriage. They explain each enneagram type in detail in order to understand yourself more and to understand your spouse more. They offer sound wisdom in relating to one another. This book is a must have for every relationship!

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  • Ron Morris
  • 2019-08-23

Alexis Campbell

So good! So much great information & practical ways to transform your marriage. You will learn so much about yourself and your spouse, through the Enneagram & Christ!

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  • davewj
  • 2019-08-21

Great Insight!

Grateful for this tool. Total game changer!! Thanks for making the Enneagram simple to understand.