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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times best seller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently - and far less seriously - than its male counterpart. 

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2015, 2021 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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A must read for women AND men

It was my partner who introduced me to this book. I am proud of him for finding it, and sharing it with me.
If anyone has ever wondered, about themselves or woman in general, how the heck do women work? Then this book will answer a lot of questions for you.
I dare say, there is some thing for everybody in this book, man or woman (and every gender in between, not to exclude those who feel that they are neither! Or more one rather than the other). But especially for women.

I wish this book was something that was forced on us in high school. I think this book is some thing that everyone should read when they enter puberty. Or even just before.

Know that I will be recommending it, sharing it, and probably buying it for the purpose of it being passed down for all those I love and even for strangers I may happen to meet along my journey of life.
Because this book should be read by everyone!

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  • ProfessorGuy
  • 2021-03-06

Excellent revisions

Dr. Nagoski's revisions were necessary, due to some partners' incomprehension of the difference between desire and pleasure. Thanks to Dr. Nagoski for recognizing this issue publicly and addressing it with this new edition. I am in academia myself and am aware of the fragility of some egos in this domain. Dr. Nabisco handled the communicative shortcomings in the previous book with utter professionalism and with an eye to collaborative and affirming communication, most especially toward men in heterosexual partnerships. Good communication is important in partnerships between people of any gender identity and sexual orientation!

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  • tammy
  • 2021-03-04

Usless!!!

This book is the equivalent of "Full story at 6:00" She is always telling you what she intends to tell you in chapter 5 or 6 etc. It is so repetitive, I thought something was wrong with my playback.

The new science as the title suggests just never really got there for me.

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  • Anja
  • 2021-03-08

An absolute gem, thank you!!

I wish someone gave me this book 15 years ago!! With all the crazy out there, this book is really fantastic, a must read/listen for all women and men. First two chapters were quite "mmm" but then it gets better and better.

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  • salma
  • 2021-04-09

Love it and a must read for all women (& men)

My doctor recommend this book. But I ended up reading “vagina” by Naomi wolf before then this. The two books changed my life. The science in this book is amazing. It’s very validating and educational. It is extremely empowering to anyone to experience this much information and learn about her body and her needs/ likes/ wants and not feel bad or shame or guilt about them. It is healing in many ways and truly allowed me to un-judge myself especially as I go through my healing and inner self work.

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  • Daria P.
  • 2021-05-03

not recommend

book doesn't have direct information, to much water. Book with anatomy of new era....just by beginning of discussion about explaining who is woman and man.... so messed up... its good book for transganders....

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  • Erick
  • 2021-04-25

From a Husband

Glad the doctor recommended to my wife and my wife to me. I wish I read a book like this in high school! Great audio. Well organized and easy to follow.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2021-04-22

Just wow!!

I learned so much with this book and am grateful for it. Relearning how things should be!

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  • Kjblack
  • 2021-04-19

Great Eye opener

i was. told by a friend to read this book, although i didnt agree with all if it this was a great read and a big stepping stone in discovering more about the woman i am and loving myself unconditionally.

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  • Smoore
  • 2021-04-15

Required reading for everyone

Everyone needs to read/listen to this book, whether you have a vulva or not. As the author says: all the same parts, just organized differently. I found all this info interesting and really applicable no matter what parts you have. This should really be a part of all sex ed/health, etc classes.

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  • Ross Flynn
  • 2021-04-15

Exceptional

Recommended by Esther Perel, this has been the most useful book I’ve ever read on this subject. Easily accessible, non-shaming, informative for men & women. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I will be recommending this book often.