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No matter what your setting - at work, at a family function, with colleague, with classmates, with roommates - it is hard to deal with difficult people. Are you the difficult one or are they? How do some people deal with these annoying people?
Working out how to deal with difficult people can be stressful. These difficult people can be frustrating, annoying, and often just plain exhausting. How they act, behave, and respond to you can cause you great stress. So what do you do when you are dealing with difficult people or a difficult person, and it is causing you stress?
Dealing with difficult people can make you very frustrated and even drive you crazy! It's important to realize, however, that it's not really about you at all. Difficult people actually care very little about you. Their focus is only on themselves. The reality is you are a blip on their radar screen. You are only important if you happen to get in the way. Or alternatively, your importance is only to the extent that they need you to get something they want. So remember not to take what they say or do too personally.
As much as you would like to change a difficult person, it's not likely to happen. You can spend a lot of energy trying to change a difficult people, but the reality is you don't have that kind of power. Another important fact to remember is that difficult people are unlikely to change on their own. This can feel very depressing. However, let's look at the positive. Because difficult people tend not to change, you are able to predict their behavior. So rather than having high expectations of difficult people and spending a lot of energy and becoming frustrated with them, try focusing your energy on preparing for encounters with them. This will give you more of a sense of control, and although you cannot change a difficult personality, you might very well create a more positive effect on the outcome of any encounter.
As you have probably realized by now, dealing with difficult people is inevitable. It is a fact of life. You have a choice as to how you deal with a difficult person. You can approach the difficult person with your teeth gritted, expecting to have a miserable or difficult experience. Alternatively, you could try to be as positive as possible. Devise a strategy ahead of time. Decide what results you would like to achieve, rather than concentrating on the negative issues or your bad feelings about the difficult person.