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Healing Your Emotional Self

A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame
Written by: Beverly Engel
Narrated by: Vanessa Hart
Length: 8 hrs and 51 mins
Categories: Self-Help, Motivational
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Publisher's Summary

Parents act as a mirror to show a child who she or he is. Throughout childhood there will be other mirrors, but children inevitably return to the reflection in that original mirror in order to determine their goodness, importance, and self-worth. In Healing Your Emotional Self, Beverly Engle offers her highly effective Mirror Therapy program to help you reject the distorted images your parents either intentionally or unintentionally projected onto you. She explores the seven types of emotionally abusive or neglectful parents and the seven most common parental mirrors, providing specific advice and recovery strategies for each one.

Helping you raise your self-esteem and improve your self-image, this innovative step-by-step program provides you with the skills you need to:

  • Create a positive self-image separate from your abusive parents' distorted picture
  • Separate emotionally from your parents and provide for yourself what you missed as a child
  • Discover who you really are – including your likes, dislikes, values, goals, and dreams – by creating a word self-portrait and using other Mirror Therapy techniques
  • Overcome your tendency toward self-blame, self-hatred, and self-destructiveness
  • Learn self-nurturing and set effective limits to help you control your tendency to overeat, drink too much, overspend, and/or overwork
  • Become the person you are meant to be by being more accepting of yourself
Learn to love who you see in the mirror with the breakthrough program found in Healing Your Emotional Self

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2006 Beverly Engel (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

What the critics say

"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child." (Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents)
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives." (Joyce Catlett, M.A., co-author of Fear of Intimacy)

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Everyone should read this book.

With this book and a journal you will become a better person, heal untold wounds, and become a better parent. I recommend it to everyone.

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Buy the book

I think this is a really worthwhile book, however the narrator sounds like a computer generated voice. It is distracting, and I wish I had just gotten the book in print version.

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Reference Material Included is GARBAGE

Book said reference material would come with this book. I found the .pdf file but there is only one page of information attached. How can this be considered adequate reference material for a self help book of this nature?

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  • Rebecca B
  • Edmonton, AB
  • 2017-05-19

New narrator, please!

The book is a good follow up to Engels other books, although there is a lot of repetition for treatment. What really took away from this audiobook for me, however, was the narration. The reader sounds monotone and lifeless, I honestly spent the first 10 minutes of the book attempting to see if it was an actual person reading it, or a computer program. Very lifeless and monotonous.

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  • Robert A. Pawlikowski
  • Roxbury, CT United States
  • 2012-10-22

Presumes a damaged childhood

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

While this might make a list of recommended books, it would not be among the first on the list.

Would you be willing to try another book from Beverly Engel? Why or why not?

I believe the content is sound, and based on years of training and experience. I have no doubt that what is presented is accurate and has insight.

Would you be willing to try another one of Vanessa Hart’s performances?

I might. The material in this book is somewhat dry. Ms. Hart's voice is sometimes too soothing - I wouldn't recommend this book while driving!

Do you think Healing Your Emotional Self needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

Perhaps, but it was the wrong book for my particular needs.

Any additional comments?

This book assumes a person has problems with that stem from bad parenting. In listening to it, I found myself being thankful for my parents who were not abusive, inattentive, manipulative, narcissistic, hyper-critical, etc.

If that is your story, then I believe this book to be quite useful (and I wish you a succesful journey from such a dark place). If you have feelings of inadequacy that are not directly related to your relationship with your parents, this is NOT the book for you.

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  • Catherine
  • 2013-09-22

Great for anyone into self development

Would you listen to Healing Your Emotional Self again? Why?

Absolutely! I think you need to listen more than once as there is so much "work" to do with each chapter, internal reflection. Loved all the examples the author brought into the story telling.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

That parental abuse comes in many forms. I'd typically thought of abuse as physical, sexual or of neglectful parent ... hadn't really thought of critical, rejecting or emotional absentee parent would fall in that category.

Any additional comments?

At times I found hard to listen to as it brought up feelings I hadn't realized I'd been harbouring. But by the end of the book I felt I had my eyes opened and look forward to working on the exercises the author has at the end of each chapter.

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  • Scott
  • 2013-06-04

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Terrible narration. Couldn't finish it.

How could the performance have been better?

Another narrator

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Some useful stuff there....just couldn't stomach listening to the narrator, so I didn't get too far.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2018-02-12

great book- eyes opening

you can really understand what drives many of your and others behavior, helps to have more empathy and self compassion. A bit too many different exercises.

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  • Amber Akerman
  • California
  • 2017-11-16

Helpful!

super helpful, i read it in just 2 weeks and noticed an immediate difference in my thought patterns and daily life

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  • Aaron
  • 2015-08-09

Huge help

I didn't even understand my pain till I listened. Thank you. I honestly think that this book could help almost everyone to an extent.

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  • Tia Weedon
  • Frederick, MD
  • 2015-06-26

Insightful

I did find this book helpful. It does get a little dark In my opinion when she self discloses and if you have that sort of darkness in your past this could be helpful. In my case my childhood wasn't horrible and it's difficult to say that my parents were either neglectful or narcissistic so sometimes it was hard to relate.

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  • Lee
  • 2016-06-02

My Emotional Self after many brain surgeries

Ms. Hart was difficult for me to listen to. I would have rather listened to the author. As for the content I have reviewed and listened to the audiobook multiple times and found her other book about emotional abuse, a better listen.

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  • Andrea Almeida
  • california
  • 2015-01-14

the most helpful book that I ever read<br />

loved it ! this book and the exercise helped me so much to understand and accept myself in the caring , loving way. giving myself credit for so much accomplish that I didn't even realized before. if you have always struggle with your past and self-esteem do yourself a favor and read this book I guarantee it will change your life .

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