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  • The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
  • Written by: Ian Kerner
  • Narrated by: Ian Kerner
  • Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.3 out of 5 stars (129 ratings)

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She Comes First

Written by: Ian Kerner
Narrated by: Ian Kerner
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Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

What the critics say

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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Fantastic book and knowledge, terrible performer, kinda condescending

This book is full of fantastic and deep knowledge on how to eat pussy and please a woman orally, goes a little overboard on the authors complete worship of vaginas. I wouldn't worship anything to the level he seems to.

Overall I recommend reading the short notes somewhere such as Blinkist. Not worth 4 hours as I felt it went too deep and technical. I want to have sex, not analyse a vagina.

Kudos to you for looking at this book! You're in a special group.

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Informative

Was very helpful to learn and understand the female pleasure zones and how to apply the techniques. This has improved my pleasure giving immensely.

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Just KNOW YOUR WOMAN!

Okay, there are a lot of books about pleasing your woman. Just know that the best way to please your woman is to know how to love her. Unless you are the player type, following this simple advice will be the most important thing you will ever learn about making her scream for more. I am not judging the player type... I just feel that they probably aren't really interested in loving women as much as sex with a woman.

I found that this book is quite like any other you will find. Full of facts and techniques all written within the realm of humour and the mastery of using tounges and fingers. The information in this book is sound. There is no BS here, all the information is useful.

As you probably know, all women are not equal and the techniques should be taken as a general guide, not a set of instructions. I feel the most valuable information here is knowing female anatomy. This is important. Most men play around touching things that really have no sense. Once you know what touch, it is now a matter of knowing your woman and what she likes. So experimentation is fun!

And remember that the key to pleasing (I feel strongly) is passion and love toward your lover. If passion and love are present, anything you do will send her to the moon... and you as well. Don't get bogged down in the details... have fun.

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Great book.

Its a really good book but it could use further definitions and explanation of certain definitions and names used.

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Repeats the same story over and over.

Repeats the same story over and over. Could be a shorter book. Boring performance.

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Good important information

But delivered by someone who sounds very boring and the performance sucked but useful anyway

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A prefect book for anyone looking to improve/ enhance their love life for that special woman.

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she comes first is a HUGE snooze 😴

so boring and the author/ narration was a huge snooze. instructions done as if it were a paint by numbers

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Boring

If there was ever a book that needed an abridged version, this is it. 4 1/2 hours of someone rehashing quotes from other authors with absolutely nothing informative to add. This author just likes to hear himself talk, and he is not even good at that.

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Boring….so boring…

The author and narrator is one of the most monotonous and boring speaker I have ever paid to listen to.

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