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Publisher's Summary

If you are an adult child of a narcissistic mother, this audiobook is for you, and if you are not sure whether your abusive mother is a pathological narcissist, you will find out.

If you listen to this audiobook:

  • You will become aware of all the reasons why your childhood was so traumatic.
  • You will learn how to deal with your narcissistic mother without being her victim any longer.
  • You will find out all dysfunctional beliefs and habits that you developed during your childhood.
  • You will learn how to contrast Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms. 

The issue of toxic mothers challenges the status quo in so many ways but does need to be addressed. Adult children of narcissistic parents are often plagued with so much guilt and sense of deep obligation and shame that they feel duty-bound to keep whatever happened in the family secret, even when it is shredding their lives. It’s really difficult to share your experience because narcissists, and especially a narcissistic mother, can be very good at creating the perfect image of the family for outsiders.

The solution is not forgiving or forgetting, but understanding and working on your self-development, and finally taking back control of your life.

Even if you were born in the wrong place, growing up dealing with an abusive mother, you can leave the past behind and build a better future by taking control of your life. This audiobook is a painful path of awareness, but it is also the first step of a journey toward a better life.

©2019 Caroline Foster (P)2020 Caroline Foster

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Excellent book but the extremely robotic narration made it very difficult to sit through. Took me quite a few listens to make it through the whole thing.

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Great listen

I truly enjoyed this. I only have my mother left as a parent and unfortunately she was awful to me my whole life.

I'm trying to be a better person and understand her so I can understand how to react or not react to her nonsense. it's a great listen and had given my lots of tips and ways to be a better person myself.

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eye opening.

loved it and will definitely listen to it again as someone who comes from the unique world of narcissistic parents. This was extremely validating and gave me hope for the future.

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Just what I needed

This book made me understand so much of my childhood, especially the Golden child - scapegoat part. Lots of a-ha moments. Leaves you with a great desire to finally take back control of your life.

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  • Dom
  • 2021-10-18

LOVE

I really enjoyed this. extremely eye opening and just a big feeling of relief! Wow!

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well that explains a bunch

tears of sadness as hearing about this topic and how horrifically it affects us is painful...and tears of relief for the same reason as it is very validating

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I have now opened my mind.

Very good book with accurate descriptions. I'll be doing a small segment on it in my podcast this week. linktr.ee/anorthernperspectivepodcast if you are interested in listening. I'm new but am committed. Again a very good book worth the listen and a way to help analyse your life.

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Good but short

the information in this book was very helpful at identifying traits of a narcissistic mother. however the entire book is very short and leaves little to recovery strategies citing that it should be left up to counselling. Fair enough though that is the best way I suppose

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The narrator sounds like a robot or an AI voice. I had to stop listening. I wish the author could read this book.

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made so many things....make sense

here i always thought it was me..... but my Mother really was the cause of sooooo much childhood pain

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  • 2020-09-21

A little victim-blamey in parts.

I was really enjoying this book until it got to a point (3.4) where the author blames victims of narc mothers for their feelings. She insists that we shouldn't let ourselves feel certain ways in response to things our narc mothers do. She says we feel the way we feel because we WANT to feel that way. "No one can make you feel anything you don't want to feel. You feel these things by choice." The book did validate to me that I have a narc mother, but I'll not finish the book after knowing the author believes our feelings are our fault.

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  • DCarter
  • 2020-06-14

STOP!!! SEARCH NO MORE! YOU FOUND THE ANSWER HERE!

I am thankful to have found this book! Anyone that deals with a narcissistic mother, you can find your answers right here! I have been struggling to just survive life due to my narc mother. I am better for listening to this book. I am a new human being and regained my strength! Here's why...

It helps to be able to have the bookmark and clip function to repeat the stubborn lessons I needed to learn and understand. I have gained a new education, awareness of the psychological traps, how to handle difficult arguments, and finally how to have my freedom and peace of mind. (I also lost 7lbs from releasing the stress in 4 days that I was building up - LOL!)

I encourage anyone who has an issue with Narcissists to read Caroline Foster. She's not like the rest giving a bunch of facts from studies at universities or confusing you with a bunch of medical terms. She identifies the problem and tell it exactly how it is! Most importantly she tells you what you need to do to save yourself!

Thank you, Caroline Foster. You saved my life at 46yrs old!!!

God bless you!

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  • Tracy Brewer
  • 2020-12-07

Not great

I was disappointed with the way in which the author is telling the reader specific things that are not research-based. For example, there is a section where the author says your parent never loved you as an infant. That is a bold statement that may not apply to the reader’s situation but if the reader is feeling disconnected with a family it could cause problems instead of helping find solutions. There are several such examples within this book. A reader needs to be guarded and be aware that everything the author says may not directly apply to their situation. Don’t waste your time.

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  • Jessica Hickok
  • 2020-09-27

Narrated by Siri's Narcissistic Robotic Mother

This book has good content, but is narrated by a robot that is emotionless that sounds like she could be Siri's narcissistic mother. It's pretty bad and annoying. Makes it hard to finish the book. I wish I would have read the book, rather than listen to it.

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  • Anthony Sheffler
  • 2020-09-18

Great information; Insane over use of him/her

Very informative but the writer's approach of topics involves lots of examples containing gendering where gender in reality wouldn't matter or over using "he or she" type language, both to the points that it either gives the impression that the example is a gendered experience even when it isn't or that the he/she's simply over power the actual message. For this reason: this book requires multiple reads to understand what the base messages are but subsequently, these reads will be more painful than the last just for the fact of slogging through the clunky phrasing.

Letter to the author: singular they/them is 100% correct language that we have used for hundreds or years, in fact, you even used it once to describe to possessive nature of a narcissist to **their** children. In the end, it is just more pleasing to read and hear compared to he/she's and him/her's that detract from your intention.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2021-08-16

Casually written

I did not finish this book. I found it bizarrely casually /poorly written from the get go. It's not very scholarly and sounds like someone who has not been formally educated on writing wrote it. I was hoping for a book with more meat and substance and this is just not it. The narration is also pretty bad which makes the poor writing stand out even worse.

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  • Mahfuz
  • 2020-04-25

Worth information's

This book is really good. I found that in this book thoroughly explains types of narcissistic mothers, the types of abuse, roles of the children, effects of the abuse, and tips for start to heal. The author did a great job.

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  • Kristin Hernandez
  • 2021-08-30

Not worth the investment

This book reads like it was written by a resentful person. It’s not well researched or written. It seems based on the opinions of the author who is a life coach and not a trained clinician. It also sounds like it’s being read by a robot. Overall very disappointing.

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  • Brian
  • 2021-12-11

Dangerous Advice

Very disappointed overall. This book is based on the opinions of one lady with no credentials or formal training in mental health or counseling. The only factual data is when the author quotes the DSM-5 manual. The rest is opinion and oversimplified advice on a very complex topic. No inclusion of facts, data or research. If you are the rare person dealing with someone with true narcissistic personality disorder I would not take advice from this book. Seek help or read a book from someone with actual education in this subject. Also the narration sounds like Siri and is very annoying.

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  • JS
  • 2021-07-15

Could not finish the book.

I quit listening when the author said, “…we only feel what we want to feel…”. My abusive mother says the same thing.

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