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Stop Walking on Eggshells

Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Narrated by: Kirsten Potter
Length: 8 hrs and 2 mins
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Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation?

If the answer is "yes," someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.

This compassionate guide will enable you to:

  • Make sense out of the chaos
  • Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
  • Defuse arguments and conflicts
  • Protect yourself and others from violent behavior

©2010 Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger (P)2011 Tantor

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"Verdict. This informative, well-written book is highly recommended for relatives and significant others of someone with BPD." ( Library Journal)

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Just in time!

Great book that helped me understand what I’m feeling about a current relationship. Relevant. Current. Validating if you are a care giver of a loved one.

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It was a tough "read". So many people can have the "symptions" of BPD. It is a difficult diagnosis.

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Super helpful resource if your loved one suffers from BPD. Gives practical tips and lots of information. Applicable whether they are your friend, child, parent, or sibling.

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I wished I had listened to this book years ago!

As a child of a borderline mother, I really wished I had listened to this book much before in my twenties!! I am almost 40 years old, and still struggling with putting limits to my overwhelming mother. I was definitely a parented child and still am. This book is a really good start for me and I already started using some great techniques, teached in this book to set limits firmly but with love and compassion. I will read more books about surviving a borderline parent, which are mentioned in this book. Lastly, I have to say that I really enjoyed the voice of the narrator, which was so soothing to me!

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This book has provided me with some very helpful tips and important information. Even if you don't know someone with this disorder, it can also help if you know someone with any mental illness or addition.  #Audible1

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As a person with BPD

This book made me feel much worse about myself and as if I’m a monster even though I don’t have many of these symptoms. This made me feel as if I am an abusive person who only hurts people. After reading and talking to people no one really thinks of me as abusive but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad person because of what I’ve read in this book. So over all if you’re a person that has a loved one with BPD this may just make the person feel worse and if you hide it from them it will likely end up in a worse outrage because they will feel like they have hurt you and because they can’t regulate their emotions it will not come out well.

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  • J. Simonton
  • 2013-06-11

Everyone should listen to this book

If you could sum up Stop Walking on Eggshells in three words, what would they be?

Amazing, Needed, Healing

What did you like best about this story?

The fact that I know there are other people who have felt what I am feeling and who have found a way to have a relationship with someone with BPD without losing themselves in the process.

What does Kirsten Potter bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

She definitely helps to set a tone that isn't always serious. When dealing with difficult personalities, you must have a sense of humor and this book definitely made me laugh out loud more than once.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Whenever the author discussed that how a BPD loved one acts is not your fault. That you are not a bad person and are not the cause of their pain and anguish. I broke down and cried because I needed to hear that.

Any additional comments?

I got more out of listening to this book the second time. The first time I was just thinking of situations I had been through that were similar but the second time I absord a lot more of the advice and listened slowly.

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  • Korena
  • 2013-02-04

Very Informative

Would you consider the audio edition of Stop Walking on Eggshells to be better than the print version?

Did not read print version, but enjoyed the audio version

Who was your favorite character and why?

doesn't apply

What about Kirsten Potter’s performance did you like?

Easy to listen to voice

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

Can't Control it Didn't cause it Can't cure it

Any additional comments?

Listened to this book several times. Learn new things each time I listen.

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  • James Brown
  • 2013-05-05

Bitter Sweet - "Very Bitter, yet Very Sweet"

If you could sum up Stop Walking on Eggshells in three words, what would they be?

"Extremely Eye Opening."

What was one of the most memorable moments of Stop Walking on Eggshells?

When I realized in the middle of the 1st chapter that I have a few close family members possibly with BPD.

Which character – as performed by Kirsten Potter – was your favorite?

The young wife with BPD

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Stop Walking on Eggshells?

I will look for further info on BPD, to see how I can apply it to the situations in my life that I deal with, with those close to me that might have the disorder.

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  • Stephen
  • 2012-09-08

Occasionally A Book Is Like an Epiphany. 2nd Ed Is

Would you consider the audio edition of Stop Walking on Eggshells to be better than the print version?

Take care the first time you listen!
It is very captivating to have your experiences validated and be given skills to limit those experiences.
Driving is not the time to be staring at your audio player saying 'that is so true'.
3 months latter I'm still as excited as when I first listened to this Audio-Book.

If you are new to this book Part 1 will Captivate you (as it did me a few years ago).
If you've read the 1st Edition, Part 2 will bowl you over.

What other book might you compare Stop Walking on Eggshells to and why?

A few times in your life you read a book that's like an epiphany. This is one of them.
(Part 1 of the 1st Ed also did this to me)

Which scene was your favorite?

Part 2 Lean the skills to live your life. Boundaries aren't just for BPD's but relevant when dealing with any difficult person.

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Part 2 of this 2d Edition is so relevant to everyday life, not just dealing with BPD sufferers. If you read the First Edition, you are in for a treat. So much more information and it's so relevant to today, tomorrow and the future.
I purchased it to brush up & found Part 2 of the second Edition so good I bought paper backs for some friends. A must read (listen).

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  • JUDIE
  • 2012-10-24

Absolute truth!

If you could sum up Stop Walking on Eggshells in three words, what would they be?

So much information!

Who was your favorite character and why?

It was mainly a self help book

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Learning I was not alone.

Any additional comments?

I recommend it for family, patients, anyone wanting to know more about BPD. It's a horrible disease and I as a patient, also living with someone with BPD and had a mother withBPD. It was very informative. VERY INFORMATIVE

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  • Diane
  • 2017-10-01

Explosive personalities

You may have been drawn to this book because the title seems to describe how you feel much the time when dealing with a certain person. Many have never heard of borderline personality disorder (BPD)--called such because it is a disorder that seems to be on the borderline between mental illness and personality disorder--but if you feel like you're constantly walking around on eggshells with a person you care about and are confused, hurt and frustrated as to why that is happening, you might explore this book.
Even if that person has not been clinically diagnosed with BPD, many of the suggestions on how to deal with behavior that seems irrationally hurtful and manipulative are quite helpful. Audio format makes it a bit difficult to absorb the content (I did a lot of re-winding)– I ended up buying the print version of the book so I could mark it up and refer back to it when I found a particularly relevant section while listening. I also will be looking into getting their workbook which gives some more concrete pointers on how to deal with various situations. Recommended.

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  • Jimmymac
  • 2012-09-04

Great primer to understand BPD

What did you love best about Stop Walking on Eggshells?

Helped me understand someone I love, and how my reactions can help or make things worse. I want to hear more about DBT, what i am told is the best treatment for BPD.

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  • Ulrich
  • 2012-01-02

Informative and empowering information.

Would you listen to Stop Walking on Eggshells again? Why?

After the first read, I was able to identify traits of BP. After the second read, I began understanding why BPs are as they are. The appendix is awesome in its self. I plan on reading this book again. It seems that I learn many new topics with each read.

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  • Jacques
  • 2015-06-25

The one book I wished I had gotten hold of before entering in a BP relationship

I stumble across this book as my bdp fiancée moved out and away all the way across the country. I had no knowledge about this condition but the occasional name heard here and there.
There was so many things about my fiancée of 3 years that I would not know how to deal with.
I defined it as double standard. Then it became her standard. At last, there were no more common sense. I was to blame for everything gone wrong in our relationship.
This book revealed so much to me. Had I not discovered it, I would had moved on and continue seeing me as the fault.
Now, I understand and recognize the patterns I felt for.
Best, I am now equipped with understanding and techniques to hopefully try to help and even possibly restore and heal a relationship that was otherwise hopeless and felt completely helpless.
I love this amazing woman I met 3 years ago. Even more than ever. Now, I can only hope to have the opportunity to work in our issues and, if progress is made, possibly reunite and be together again one day.
And if not, I will have processed so much that I would have otherwise just buried in my heart.

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  • Ian
  • 2011-09-28

Really clears things up

After having a relationship with someone with BPD, it really made everything make sense.
I never even knew what really was until this book, which really had me saying "yes, that's it exactly" over and over. It helped clear up so many issues that were still standing out in my memory and make sense of it all.

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