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The Game of Desire

5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance - and Getting What You Want
Written by: Shannon Boodram
Narrated by: Shannon Boodram
Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are. 

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram - the most sought-after sex educator on the internet - is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today - when the rules of love and attraction are fluid - and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just 60 days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand - your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract - and retain - the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence. 

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Shannon Boodram (P)2019 HarperAudio
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fantastik

the best dating book of the summer 2019 full of insight and good tips im going to listen to it again

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Lots of great actionable tips!

Whether you are new to dating or finding it challenging Shan provide lots of great takeaways that will take your dating game to the next level.

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Excellent Read

This was VERY impactful. The approach of looking inward and getting to know , understand and love yourself is a sure way to leveling up in the game of desire. Thank you Shan!

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Not Great as an Audio Book

Not great as an audio book. I feel like you have to listen to it in one sitting to be able to keep up with all the fine details. I stopped listening to it for a week and when I returned I couldn't remember which woman had what issue. The advice given should be applied with a grain of salt as some of the advice sounds more like a gimmick. There are a few gems.

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Concise, Captivating and Engaging

this read is a must for anyone looking to understand themselves better in order to foster relathionshios better. definitley a lot in here!

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Perfect blend of science and social.

Every woman (not just the single woman) should pick up this book for a read. It's direct, insightful, funny and exceptionally written! This book is the perfect mix of scientific theories on love and attraction and real life applications.

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honest and friendly

i liked it a lot. it really shines a light on how in order to make a change in your life you have to first change or enhance something about you. and you cant be sitting on "i am the greatest" if your life doesn't reflect that. it helps you look inside. at least to me it did. i think loads can benefit from this friendly but still very honest approach to looking inside so to have a better not just love life, but life in general.

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Definitely going to re read

Wow, I learned so much from the book. I can’t wait to re read and actually do the work book. There are so many good tips that I know I can use I’m other areas of life. It was explained well and everything was too the point. Great job Shan

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This was a great book. I felt seen in each women on their journey. Thanks

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Always watched her youtube videos!

Never knew what her profession was before this book but i'm glad she taught me and made me realize of how much control I truly have. thank you Shannon!

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  • Shan Boody
  • 2019-09-25

Hey it’s me...you

Just a review from yourself to say I’m proud of you. I listened to the full thing, again and you really did your thing oxo

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-05

I applaud you!

Shannon Boodram. Girl. This book was everything and more! I am a 25yo married female and found this book to be very informative and helpful. No, I did not read this book for tips on how to date, instead it was to support a person who I look up to when it comes to “self help”. In turn, I benefited greatly. My takeaways were that of how to get what I want out of any relationship, be it business or personal friendships. Sometimes we may settle for things that enter our lives but this book taught me many ways of actually knowing myself first in order to go after what I deserve! Why clunk around waiting for your boss to notice you for a promotion?! Instead, put yourself out there, become someone they want more of and can’t be without! How you ask? READ THIS BOOK! All in all this book is a great confidence builder - start with your mind, then control the rest. Thank you, Shan!

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  • Alex
  • 2019-07-25

Lovin’ it

Only on the second chapter but it’s so enjoyable to listen to while I do my morning runs. Kind of like I got a bestie just talking to me, so relatable, humorous and insightful.

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  • JN
  • 2020-04-08

Too Specific

I love Shan...but this book was disappointing. I spent my time listening to a science experiment and how it worked for them. I didnt pick this up to hear about her case study, i want to know "The Game of Desire". Let me know the game in a few less words. She talks about flirting and good key points but they are so jumbled up in this case study...I didnt get much from it.
Please write another one, but more like a self help introductional and less like a science book!

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  • Joshua
  • 2020-02-02

The con-woman's guide for dating success.

This audio book lacks the accountability, integrity and honor required to the process of finding meaningful love. I hoped she would have her participants focus on self improvement and expectation management but, she spent about 10% on those subjects and 90% on how to manipulate people to find them desirable.

If you are interested in the book then please read or listen to it knowing that she teaches a systematic approach to dating for women who are struggling with accepting reality. She lacks the fortitude to explain to her participants how to take ownership of their situation and and leaves them believing that ridiculous standards may be rewarded (one story implies desirable professional athletes are romantically achievable by less than admirable women).

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  • Melissa
  • 2019-08-05

This book couldn't have been any better!

I initially downloaded this book only because I support Shan and absolutely believe in all of her work. I didn't think I would benefit from this book because its centered towards assisting the single community but I was wayyyy wrong. All the while hearing the audiobook, I couldn't help but to think of how many of my close single friends (who struggle in the dating scene) could benefit from this book AND it did actually give me perspective and self realization to make me a better me (AKA how self awareness and thinking things thoroughly can make relationships stronger). It's hard to explain but the only advice I can give is to read this book! I absolutely loved all of Shan's direction, tips, and the volunteers (Maya, Deshawn, Priscilla, Courtney and Stephanie) were a perfect mix of people that I believe many will be able to relate to.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-07-26

Finally applicable advice for modern day dating!

Shan Boodram did an awesome job articulating dating strategies that anyone can use. This book stands apart from the rest because the author didn’t just state dating facts and research studies, she used real people to test these theories in real social settings. Following each participants’ journey through the program and hearing about their struggles, failures, and successes made the book so relatable. I honestly cannot wait to go out and try out some of the techniques. I would recommend this book to anyone in the dating world looking to make meaningful connections!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2020-04-05

The worst dating book EVER! She’s a hypocrite!

I’m not a fan of this book at all. Her dating tips are not applicable for the average single woman who has confidence and self-respect. Plus, it’s hard to take her dating advice seriously, because she alternated between being in an open relationship and friends with benefits with a guy. She constantly says in her book about how it’s hard dating seriously these days, because it’s rare to find someone who wants a committed relationship and that’s true. And she even claims that she understands the struggle for women who want commitment. Well it doesn’t seem like it, because she was in an open relationship and friends with benefits with a guy for YEARS. She didn’t even want a commitment with him!! She’s a hypocrite! How can she teach one thing, and do the exact opposite in her own life? PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH! I dislike people who lie and pretend to be someone they’re not! Plus, I’ve spoken to her and she is a very mean and fake person. She just wants followers to buy her books and play her obviously rigged and unreasonable games, just so she can get money. I was originally a fan of hers before I learned about her lies, because I thought she stood for the woman who has self-respect and just wants a sweet guy to commit! Well before I found out about the lies and was still a fan, I met her and I was shocked at how mean and nasty she is! It’s always so sad when you meet a semi-famous person, and they disappoint you! You’ve been exposed! STOP LYING! PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH! I would rate zero stars if I could!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2020-03-13

She is always great

I have always been a huge fan of Shan. While this was narrated from a womens point of a view, as a man I used it as a guide to what women might be thinking. What they might have issues with as well overcoming. She is really good at explaining things. I have followed Shan for a few years on IG and she is the real deal. She is fun and has a great personality. It was great having her own voice on the audio book,

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  • eclass
  • 2019-10-24

Decent. Needs more science

A lot of anecdotes and def not scientific enough. If your looking for light dating help it can be good. Otherwise it’s more for entertainment

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