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The Game of Desire

5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance - and Getting What You Want
Written by: Shannon Boodram
Narrated by: Shannon Boodram
Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are. 

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram - the most sought-after sex educator on the internet - is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today - when the rules of love and attraction are fluid - and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just 60 days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand - your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract - and retain - the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence. 

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Shannon Boodram (P)2019 HarperAudio

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the best dating book of the summer 2019 full of insight and good tips im going to listen to it again

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Well done Shan :)

Though the experimentation parts weren’t robust (e.g. numerous uncontrolled variables, confirmation bias not accounted for via double-blind, etc), other (i.e. most) parts of this book gave me explicit guidance and motivation. Well done Shan!

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Life-Changing Read

First of all, this book is more about self-awareness than dating. Shan gives a unique and creative perspective on becoming more whole and living and operating as your truest, best self. We all fill our minds with clutter (and bad dating stories), and this inevitably ripples into other areas of our lives. Yuck vs Yum taught me that HOW I spoke and communicated with my partners was YUCK. We all have unloveable behaviours and this book is a great way to look inward, learn some modern dating tips and tricks!
Shan has a beautiful and quirky way of teaching you who to surround yourself with, how to manifest what you truly desire, and with that becoming a dating expert just comes naturally!
Highly recommended -- also Shan is the BEST narrator and you just can't get enough! I finished the book in 2 days!

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Beyond what I expected

I was super excited when Shannon released this book as I am going through self discovery. This book has helped me to discover more about myself and look past my fear of re-entering the dating world with a new found confidence.I am definitely going to be listening to this book again and I am also going to get a hard copy for my book collection. Thank you Shan for this beautiful collection of work as it has empowered me in a way that I don’t even understand myself.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-05

I applaud you!

Shannon Boodram. Girl. This book was everything and more! I am a 25yo married female and found this book to be very informative and helpful. No, I did not read this book for tips on how to date, instead it was to support a person who I look up to when it comes to “self help”. In turn, I benefited greatly. My takeaways were that of how to get what I want out of any relationship, be it business or personal friendships. Sometimes we may settle for things that enter our lives but this book taught me many ways of actually knowing myself first in order to go after what I deserve! Why clunk around waiting for your boss to notice you for a promotion?! Instead, put yourself out there, become someone they want more of and can’t be without! How you ask? READ THIS BOOK! All in all this book is a great confidence builder - start with your mind, then control the rest. Thank you, Shan!

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  • Melissa
  • 2019-08-05

This book couldn't have been any better!

I initially downloaded this book only because I support Shan and absolutely believe in all of her work. I didn't think I would benefit from this book because its centered towards assisting the single community but I was wayyyy wrong. All the while hearing the audiobook, I couldn't help but to think of how many of my close single friends (who struggle in the dating scene) could benefit from this book AND it did actually give me perspective and self realization to make me a better me (AKA how self awareness and thinking things thoroughly can make relationships stronger). It's hard to explain but the only advice I can give is to read this book! I absolutely loved all of Shan's direction, tips, and the volunteers (Maya, Deshawn, Priscilla, Courtney and Stephanie) were a perfect mix of people that I believe many will be able to relate to.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-11

Read this boooook!

Amazing book, I'm about to re-read it in order to write down the advice given.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-03

Life Changing

This was the most amazing book I have ever read in my life. It is one that I know I will read over and over again. I am so thankful that Shan Boodram decided to write this book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-07-26

Finally applicable advice for modern day dating!

Shan Boodram did an awesome job articulating dating strategies that anyone can use. This book stands apart from the rest because the author didn’t just state dating facts and research studies, she used real people to test these theories in real social settings. Following each participants’ journey through the program and hearing about their struggles, failures, and successes made the book so relatable. I honestly cannot wait to go out and try out some of the techniques. I would recommend this book to anyone in the dating world looking to make meaningful connections!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-07-25

Lovin’ it

Only on the second chapter but it’s so enjoyable to listen to while I do my morning runs. Kind of like I got a bestie just talking to me, so relatable, humorous and insightful.

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  • Scarlett
  • 2019-09-15

Gratitude

This read begin because your energy spoke to me from the beginning stages of your personal YouTube. You spoke on things most not dared to and aired majority of your dirty laundry for the betterment of others even if it also brought out ignorance in some... So when I saw your wrote a book I was drawn to it because not only do I love your energy but I also support you and your work! Turns out I needed to hear a few things you spoke on... I needed to hear it all! Lol let’s see where this journey will take me.... currently working through my workbook .... thank you for being every bit of your authentic self and always educating us in the matters of dating, relationships, love, and a plethora of other similar topics!! I appreciate you! -Rod’nay

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  • Moe M
  • 2019-09-13

Fun and insightful listen!

Mindful, thorough (without being exhaustive), creative and most of all: FUN! That's signature Shan! I absolutely loved listening to this! Wonderful work, Shan. I will definitely be re-listening to this soon and taking LOTS of notes!

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  • I. G. Velazquez
  • 2019-09-12

How can a woman in a relationship use this tips

I love Shan and watch her videos but most of the time they are wired towards single women and this book although I knew it would I listen to because I wanted to see how I could use this in my relationship to keep things sexy and fun and keep the flame alive but I had a hard time since I already have the guy Shan would you please create something for women in long term serious relationships! Pretty please and thank you!!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-09-07

Absolutely what I need to hear

I was really looking forward to listening to this book and it did not disappoint! Love you, Shan!! Going to listen to it again after I do my workbook.