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When her body began to change at 11 years old, Febos understood immediately that her meaning to other people had changed with it. By her teens, she defined herself based on these perceptions and by the romantic relationships she threw herself into headlong. Over time, Febos increasingly questioned the stories she’d been told about herself and the habits and defences she’d developed over years of trying to meet others’ expectations. 

In this bold and exhilarating mix of memoir and master class, Melissa Febos tackles the emotional, psychological, and physical work of writing intimately while offering an utterly fresh examination of the storyteller's life and the questions which run through it.

In her critically acclaimed memoir, Whip Smart, Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix, turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power, desire, and fulfillment. In her dazzling Abandon Me, Febos captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection - with family, lovers, and oneself. First, her birth father, who left her with only an inheritance of addiction and Native American blood, its meaning a mystery.

While a college student at The New School, Melissa Febos spent four years working as a dominatrix in a midtown dungeon. In poetic, nuanced prose, she charts in Whip Smart how unchecked risk-taking eventually gave way to a course of self-destruction. But as she recounts crossing over the very boundaries that she set for her own safety, she never plays the victim. In fact, the glory of this memoir is Melissa's ability to illuminate the strange and powerful truths that she learned as she found her way out of a hell of her own making.

Es gibt viele wichtige Bücher über Feminismus. Aber keine ihrer Autorinnen hat derart viele Leben gelebt wie Melissa Febos: glückliche Kindheit auf Cape Cod, mit zwanzig heroinabhängig, das Studium finanziert als Domina. Heute führt sie ein bürgerliches Leben und unterrichtet an der Universität. In "Girlhood" schließt Melissa Febos Memoir mit Theorie, Soziologie mit Poesie kurz und erkundet die Gemeinsamkeiten aller Lebensphasen. Sie findet beunruhigend eindrückliche Beispiele, wie Frauen von klein auf darauf konditioniert sind, an ihrer eigenen Herabwürdigung mitzuwirken.