You know that moment where your kid says or does something, your nervous system spikes, and every parenting thing you’ve ever learned disappears from your brain…

Today we’re talking about the huge gap between what we know about calm parenting and what actually comes out when we’re tired, stressed, and triggered.

I’m joined by Dr. Alissa Jerud—clinical psychologist, DBT expert, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting.

Dr. Jerud blends gold-standard, evidence-based tools with respectful parenting so you can stop white-knuckling your reactions and start leading with grounded emotional skill.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

• The “knowing vs. doing” gap in motherhood
  Why even the most trained parents lose access to their tools under stress—and what shifts when you stop trying to control your child and start regulating yourself.
  
  
• The ART framework: Accept, Regulate, Tolerate
  How to accept emotions without judgment, understand the real “ingredients” behind your reactions, and work with triggers, thoughts, and vulnerabilities so you’re less likely to snap.
  
  
• What to do when anger hijacks your system
  How to feel anger without exploding, use distress-tolerance skills to dial it down, and choose actions that align with the parent you want to be.

This conversation is for you if you’ve ever thought, “I should know better by now,” but your reactions aren’t matching the mom you want to be. You’ll walk away with language, lenses, and practical tools you can use in real time… even on the messy days.

Pick up Dr Jerud’s book Emotion-Savvy Parenting here.