"Whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it" (Matt. 16:25).

This week we're joined by Fr. Carter Griffin, rector of the St. John Paul II Seminary in the Archdiocese of Washington, and Alvaro de Vicente, headmaster of The Heights School, to examine "discernment." It's become a Catholic buzzword, applied (or sometimes, perhaps, misapplied) to a number of life situations. Here, Fr. Carter and Alvaro discuss the methods and limits of vocational discernment—and the moral courage of commitment.

3:45 Christian discernment

6:09 Misuses of the word "discernment"

9:39 Whether we can wrongly discern vocation

14:46 Choice paralysis

20:25 Submit to the process

25:48 Dating and marriage

29:55 Mentors and spiritual directors

33:21 Principles for discerning well

39:38 "Throw your life away"?!

46:17 The need for prayer

52:36 Crisis of vocations or crisis of faith?

59:59 Church choice and church-hopping

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