Guiding Question: What will you choose in the defining moments of your life—mediocrity or a life of courageous adventure?

1. Every man faces defining moments. These are sacred, solitary times where a man decides:

• Who he will be,

• What he will give his life to,

• And how hard he’s willing to fight before he quits.

These moments don’t come often, but they shape your entire life—toward mediocrity or greatness.

2. You can be given everything… but only you can choose the adventure. Robert Lewis reminds us that no one—not a pastor, mentor, or friend—can make you live the adventure. It's a personal choice, and no amount of teaching will substitute for your own courageous step forward.

3. You must prepare before the moment. Like athletes in a locker room before the big game, men need to:

• Reflect deeply on their design, wiring, and destiny.

• Prioritize their battles—marriage, wounds, addictions, dreams.

• Assemble a plan—not too much at once, but the most urgent priorities.

• Talk with safe people—trusted friends or mentors who help you sharpen your plan.

• Move forward with courage and clarity, choosing the high and noble path.

4. Use tools like “life wiring” and “life compass.”

• Wiring shows where you're strong and where you're blocked (past, present, future).

• Compass asks: Before I die, I want to be, do, have, help, and leave… These tools help define and direct your journey.

5. Great adventures are built with clarity and courage. Start small. Tackle the top three priorities in your life. These will often be:

• Your job and whether it aligns with your design.

• Your marriage and its vitality.

• Your spiritual life and connection with God.

• Your wounds and whether they still define you.

• Your sense of fun, purpose, or noble cause.

If you're stuck, start with the one thing you know is holding you back.

6. The “locker room” moment is now. You’re not on the field yet—you’re in the moments before. The real adventure begins when you step out the door and take the field, willing to fight for a life that matters.

7. Caleb's Prayer: A Model for Bold Living End with this courageous declaration:

“Give me the land and give me the high ground.” Like Caleb, may your faith grow bolder as you grow older.

• Joshua 24:15 – “Choose for yourselves today whom you will serve… but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

• Deuteronomy 30:19 – “I have set before you life and death… choose life so that you and your descendants may live.”

• 1 Corinthians 9:26–27 – “I run in such a way, as not without aim… I discipline my body so that I may not be disqualified.”

• Psalm 92:12–14 – “They will still bear fruit in old age…”

• Caleb’s example (Joshua 14) – A man with a different spirit who followed the Lord fully and asked for the hill country at 85.