Dating in the age of A.I. is wild. In this rant-style episode, Christy shares a real story of a man on a plane using ChatGPT and meme scripts to craft the “perfect” messages for a woman he was texting.

This isn’t an AI problem—this is an outsourced expression problem.

We explore why people are relying on personas instead of presence, why authenticity will always beat performance, how manipulation isn’t always malicious, why modern gender roles have shifted, and why women’s rising standards aren’t self sabotage—they’re evolution.

This episode brings nuance, grounded compassion, radical responsibility, and straight-up relationship truth-telling for a conversation you didn’t know you needed to hear.

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00:00 — Is He Talking to YOU… or ChatGPT?

Why some men use AI to talk to women and what’s really going on behind those “perfect” messages.

02:15 — Is AI the Problem… or Something Else?

Why dating feels fake now, and what’s actually causing the disconnect.

03:26 — Is Copy-Paste Dating Manipulative?

Understanding manipulation as a fear-based pattern, not an attack on men.

04:25 — Why Does His Texting Feel Too Good to Be True?

Spotting the gap between polished lines and real emotional grounding.

05:14 — Is This About All Men… or One Example?

Why this isn’t a gender war—and why nuance matters in dating conversations.

06:00 — Why Women Expect More Now

The evolution of gender roles and why women’s standards have risen.

07:12 — Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intimacy

How conditioning impacts connection and why compassion and accountability can coexist.

08:35 — Where Am I Performing Instead of Relating?

Shifting from personas to presence to attract emotionally available partners.

09:58 — Why Dating Feels So Fake

Scripts and personas create illusions, illusions create disappointment, and disappointment breeds distrust.

11:05 — Relationship Rant Recap

Authenticity isn’t perfection—it’s presence, and it’s the foundation of meaningful connection.