Harry is joined by broadcaster, DJ and CALM ambassador Harpz Kaur for an honest and emotionally powerful conversation on Question the Default.

In this episode, Harpz opens up about her journey into media, the unseen reality behind success, and the long years of rejection, unpaid work and financial instability that deeply impacted her mental health. Despite appearing confident and accomplished on the outside, she shares what it was really like navigating depression while building a career in the public eye.

The conversation moves into grief, suic*de, and the devastating impact of losing multiple loved ones – all men – to suic*de. Harpz speaks candidly about the cultural silence around mental health, the pain of never getting answers after a loss, and why searching for “why” can sometimes keep people stuck in grief.

She reflects on the damaging expectations placed on men to stay strong, not cry, and carry everything alone – and why this silence continues to cost lives. Harpz also shares what led her to work closely with CALM, including writing a deeply personal letter about loss, survival and learning how to move forward.

Together, Harry and Harpz explore the importance of real conversations, representation, and asking the simple question that can make a difference: are you okay?

They speak openly about:

-Struggling behind career success

-Years of unpaid work and rejection

-Losing loved ones to suic*de

-Grief, acceptance and living without answers

-Cultural taboos around mental health

-Why silence is dangerous

-The power of honest conversations

-Why talking can save lives

-This is a compassionate episode about grief, resilience, and challenging the societal defaults that stop people from speaking – and being heard.

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