In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Katherine Woodward Thomas, and honestly—you’re going to feel this one in your bones. We dive into why so many of us do all the insight-oriented healing work, understand our trauma inside and out… and still feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Katherine helps us name the missing piece: learning how to orient toward a future self that’s bigger than our past.

Together, we explore how identity, trauma, and self-beliefs quietly shape our choices, our relationships, and our sense of what’s possible. This conversation is rich, hopeful, and deeply practical—especially if you’ve ever thought, “I know why I’m like this… so why isn’t anything changing?” Press play if you’re ready to imagine (and move toward) a different future without bypassing the real work it takes to get there.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] – We set the stage: midlife, therapy, and why insight alone isn’t always enough
[2:00] – Katherine shares her personal healing journey and what therapy couldn’t fully change
[5:45] – The power of “positive possible selves” and why the future shapes us as much as the past
[9:40] – Naming self-limiting beliefs and how trauma freezes identity
[13:10] – Source Fracture Stories: the core narratives that quietly run our lives
[17:00] – Becoming the wise, compassionate adult you didn’t have growing up
[21:30] – Shifting from victimhood to choice and personal agency
[26:00] – Opposite action, growth mindset, and doing what feels terrifying—but transformative
[31:00] – Why this work changes lives faster than insight alone
[35:00] – Conscious Uncoupling, legacy, and turning pain into contribution

Resources:

• Katherine’s website: https://katherinewoodwardthomas.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/

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