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Emotional Success

The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride
Auteur(s): David DeSteno
Narrateur(s): Dan Woren
Durée: 7 h et 22 min
4 out of 5 stars (13 évaluations)

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Description

A string of best sellers have alerted us to the importance of grit - an ability to persevere and control one's impulses that is closely associated with greatness. But no book yet has charted the most accessible and powerful path to grit: our prosocial emotions. These feelings - gratitude, compassion, and pride - are easier to generate than the willpower and self-denial that underpin traditional approaches to grit. And, while willpower is quickly depleted, prosocial emotions actually become stronger the more we use them. These emotions have another crucial advantage: they're contagious. Those around us become more likely to apply them when we do.

As this myth-shattering book explains, prosocial emotions evolved specifically to help us resist immediate temptations in favor of long-term gains. Originally, they enabled us to build lasting relationships with other people, and they still do that brilliantly. But they can also be adapted to strengthen our bonds with our own future selves - who will benefit most from the grit we need to succeed in life. No matter what our goals are, Emotional Success can help us achieve them with greater ease and deeper satisfaction than we would have thought possible.

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It's pretty OK

Bought this after listening to Very Bad Wizards, and I was really excited to read it!
But I really didn't like the style of this book. Desteno basically finds and explains a ton of interesting studies, but only in a superfluous way. Sometimes, it's pretty obvious that there's some nuance missing, some "unambiguous results" that were found in correlational studies. In other words, he's showing clear bias towards his results; his book is written to push specific ideas and agendas, instead of simply presenting what we know and what we may want to investigate concerning emotions and positive psychology.

Are they interesting ideas? Sure. The problem is that it comes off as...well, kinda dishonest. We're never presented to the author nor his own opinions, each result that Desteno derives from studies is presented as factual and uncontroversial, despite there being a lot of interesting nuance and ambiguity there. Desteno also takes a fairly odd perspective concerning emotions, evoking concepts like morality and self-control where they either don't quite tie in neatly, aren't explained properly, are explained post hoc with evolution, or just plain seem jammed in to make a call back to a previous point.

It makes for a somewhat monotone read; you're never presented with opposing thoughts or ideas, we don't get much exploration or discovery since everything presenting correlates the same way. Studies stop becoming intriguing pretty quickly due to this, and the book becomes kind of bloated for it as the pace is somewhat irregular (nitpicky criticism I know). I don't know if I'd recommend this one, but it can be pretty interesting if you don't know much about positive psychology yet, or if you're looking for studies in the field, I guess. For comparaison's sake, it doesn't come close to holding up to something like "Authentic Happiness", but I still finished the book. Presented in a different style or direction, it could've been a fantastic read, so I'm hopeful for the author to keep writing on the subject.

  • Au global
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Wonderful

loved it...great food for thought...excellent narration. Positive thought processes you can take anywhere in life

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  • Shirley Stone
  • 2018-02-13

Absolutely outstanding!

This book answered a lot of questions I’ve had about motivation for a long time. I have been one of those people who is relied upon discipline and habit To get things done. But this is off and left me feeling Listless and frustrated. This book showed me how to invoke positive emotions that are realistic as well as helpful

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  • Zach Meyer
  • 2018-11-13

Stuck it out

Good information but uninteresting performance. There was a lot of good information and wanted to take notes. I don’t think I will be able to listen to Dan’s monotone voice again. I prefer something with a little more emotion.

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  • Sir Pancreas
  • 2018-02-27

This will be listened to multiple times

I tend to get very enthusiastic about books, and this one was no different. While I was reading it, I was sharing it with anyone who’d pretend to listen to me.

But now that I’ve had a month since I finished it, I can say that the advice in this book is effective in a way that other books haven’t been.

It’s a little dry and it’s more descriptive than proscriptive, but that’s how you build trust and I can’t fault a book with this purpose for being too thorough and not entertaining enough. As a compelling description of the math behind set control and the simplest way toward building more of it? Five stars all the way.

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  • Robert wallace
  • 2018-06-27

Life changing

This theory of using emotional drivers is extremely powerful, and David Desteno bases all of the ideas on research studies. If you are interesting in improving yourself or others, read this book. It is a beautiful twist from the idea that you just need to develop grit to work harder and more successfully. Tapping into compassion, pride, and gratitude works better and is more enjoyable for everyone

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  • @K_Speckmann
  • 2018-05-27

People Matter! Period.

How could I not be grateful to the author for reminding the Corporate world that their Human Capital is and remains the best investment to make in.
We human beings, being Human have a monopoly in creativity and empathy even the most advanced AI cannot take away.
Leadership should acknowledge our value, and we will do well not considering ourselves mere "resources" any longer.
A definite recommended read!

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  • Sulpicia
  • 2018-10-21

Interesting evidence-based book on self-control

I have listened to several books on self-control, and this is by far my favorite. it included lots of social science research and critically analyzed experiments. the only reason I gave it four stars is that I wish it had finished with a final chapter on concrete ideas for employing these emotions in everyday life. Also, I wish that it had gone into more depth about how to foster gratitude instead of people feeling like they owe you something. Favors sometime backfire if people feel like they owe you. but it's difficult to determine how people will react to a favor if you don't know them extremely well.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2018-09-04

Reconnecting to humans

I wanted to maintain my connection (soft skills) with people. This book taught and reminded me, to be aware of my interactions.

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  • Lanceulots
  • 2018-07-25

Read it

great research and crucial topic. I am certain most of us look past the role of emotion and diminish it's value to momentary sensation rather than attributing correct value to it's power

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  • Wayne
  • 2018-07-30

Disappointing social science book!

There are some excellent social psychology/human emotion books available such as The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt, but Emotional Success is embarrassingly simplistic in its approach and its conclusions. The publisher's summary calls the book "myth-shattering" while I would call the book "common sense". Emotional Success is not without value, but its approach is too simplistic.

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  • Aaron
  • 2019-03-04

Full of mundane details that overshadow key points

There are some interesting things to consider here but they're buried behind the details of case studies. The author spends far too much time elaborating on the setup and development of social experiments (especially when it is his own work) verses focusing on the end-result and implication. All that additional information overshadows the few main points presented. Save yourself 7 hours and skip to the summary in Chapter 10

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