Love Grows

I won't be able to adequately voice what this book means to me and why you should purchase it. If you are transgender, an ally, unsure or even opposed, you should read this book. It's not about moving beyond the subject, it's about embracing it and learning from it.

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Lovable, powerfully honest and relatable story!

As a mom of a smart, handsome and courageous transgender son, I could relate to this book in so many ways. I've always said that my son is the one person who really taught me about unconditional love. Nothing will ever change that! Thank you for sharing your story and for all that you've done for the LGBTQ community. You're an inspiration!

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Terrific book!!

This book started off slowly and I thought maybe is made a mistake by buying it. I kept going and it just kept getting better. I could totally feel all emotions being felt. It just continued getting better until the very end, which was great!! I loved this book overall and I will follow the author's blog now too. I hope she writes about such book. To the author, I say thank you for what you have done for me and slowed me to be, due to the words in your book!! Thank you!!

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great strory

I really love the story it's really show up the real love
I wish I had this support and love from my family

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Exceptional & Enlightening

Jetté Knox has written a proudly authentic and deeply moving memoir allowing us as readers to really get to know each of her family members in an intimate and real way. She speaks candidly about how they arrived at the present moment, with all the twists and turns that reflect the reality of life: nothing is a straight path (pun intentional).

For those of us who have lived similar journeys, you will find much identification. For those just beginning to learn about how gender really exists as a lived experience or are looking for a model on how to be a strong ally to GNC/NB and trans folk, this will definitely offer you a good place to start.

I wish that everyone could read this book - I believe that it would relieve so much of the ignorance that drives the fear and bigotry that produces.

Glad and grateful for authors like this who are willing to do the exceptionally courageous work of sharing their stories in this way.

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Beautiful and powerful

This story is neat and dear to my heart. I’m in a similar situation, and Amanda’s storytelling has helped me immensely. The story of her family gives me hope. This is one of the best books I’ve listened to in many years.

So uplifting, and beautiful

I absolutely adored this story. Myself someone realizing later in life that I've always been a girl on the inside, hearing Zoeys side of the story as well was indescribable.

Love in Action

This is a powerful story of a family with much love and forthright ways of being true to each other. Very educational in amazing ways and heartwarming throughout.

Heed the Content Warning at the Beginning

***Edit***

I'm going to leave the original, because it's true, but I wanted to add that this is a good book, especially for cis people. I think Amanda sets a pretty good example by describing her missteps and it is refreshing to have a cis person educating other cis people... because, it is exhausting for Trans people. I'm planning on buying a couple of copies just to give them to people in my life..

Thanks,
~Moira

***Original***

Honestly, I'm not quite done with this book, but seriously, the content warning that I heard at the very beginning of this book... hours and days ago, was completely out of mind by the time I reached the actual triggering content. (I half think the author believes the triggering content was the talk of abuse and bullying.... I wonder if she understand how triggering her account of her own behavior is...)

What is worse is the author completely blindsides the reader with it. Yeah, there is the whole lead up to her partners coming out alluded to throughout, but, she goes from this happy point with her daughter's journey and then proceeds to throw us off a cliff with how awful she is. The behavior of the author in response to her partner's truth is both horrifying and triggering. It parallels too many responses from cis people who cannot comprehend what it is like for a Trans person...

Still, the author should have known better. She talks about how much she wrote about Trans’ issue, talks about how much research she did, she talks... but when it actually comes time for her to put this into practice she outed her partner to virtually all of her friends while leaning on them while her partner had virtually no one. The part about coming home to her in a fetal position in bed is way too similar to my own experiences. I wonder if she has any clue to the depths of despair surging in her partner's mind.

I’m not trying to say the author’s emotions weren’t valid. It is a shock, and to quote both the book and myself on many occasions to my own partner… “this isn’t what you signed up for.” Trans people get that, we are, over the whole course of our entire closetted lives, acutely aware of the emotions and expectations of those around us. We spend our lives blaming ourselves for our identities, we spend our lives blaming ourselves for the chaos coming out causes, we know how painful, disruptive, shocking, our coming out is… and every Trans person who comes out does so alone at first, always alone, never really knowing what to expect.

This is why this is so toxic. Zoey came out to a person she had reason to think could be trusted, (Not that she came out on her own terms, even that was forced from her) a person who should have been well versed in Trans issues, a person who should have been supportive… She was alone while her partner had a massive support group. She was alone, and as per usual, the cis person with all their friends had to take center stage…

The last few hours of this book will probably see some happy ending or journey to peace… Fine, great, wonderful… I have no doubt the author grows and learns from this particularly horrid experience… But there should have been a content warning before this. There should have been something to let Trans people know “Hi all, I’m about to remind you of the most painful, traumatic, toxic moment your coming out… I’m going to dredge up the despair and terror you felt of being alone and abandoned… I’m going to validate that and let you know you were right… I’m about to remind you exactly why you cannot trust cis people and you should just stay in the closet…” That needs a warning. I doubt I’m the only Trans person who had all those dark feelings surge to the surface after listening… Just heed the CW at the beginning of the book. Keep it ever present in your mind as you make your way through.

Love Grows, Glows, and it's Here to Stay

This book is a glowing inspiration and example for LGBTQ+ persons and allies! Unforgettable Read!