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“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” (Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models

Dr. Robert Glover’s groundbreaking book, No More Mr. Nice Guy, has helped create a worldwide movement of men seeking to become more conscious, authentic, empowered, and successful. 

Just what is a Nice Guy, why is being nice a problem, and why would someone write a book that teaches men to be not nice? A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Glover, is a man who believes he is not okay, just as he is. Due to both societal and familial conditioning, this man is convinced he must become what he thinks others want him to be in order to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others. This inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. 

In fact, Nice Guys are generally: 

  • Dishonest 
  • Secretive 
  • Manipulative 
  • Controlling 
  • Self-centered and narcissistic 
  • Passive-aggressive 

Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, caretaking, fixing, people pleasing, avoiding conflict, unsatisfying relationships, and issues with sexuality, pornography, and compulsive masturbation. The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts: 

  1. If I am good, then I will be liked and loved (and the women I want to have sex with will want to have sex with me). 
  2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask. 
  3. If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life. 

These covert contracts create a roadmap for life that rarely results in the Nice Guy getting what he really wants. Thankfully, there are answers. 

No More Mr. Nice Guy teaches men how to: 

  • Set boundaries and handle conflict 
  • Live with purpose and passion 
  • Release toxic shame 
  • Soothe anxiety 
  • Differentiate from fused emotional systems 
  • Connect with men and build tribe 
  • Have satisfying relationships 
  • Experience great sex 
  • Live life on their terms 
  • Achieve success 
  • Live up their potential in work and career 

This process allows the recovering Nice Guy to move through: 

  • Depression 
  • Social anxiety and shyness 
  • Codependency 
  • Low self-esteem
  • Loneliness and hopelessness 
  • Feelings of failure 
  • Lack of confidence and purpose 
  • Compulsive behaviors and addictions 
  • Feeling stuck in life 

Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. In fact, Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls an Integrated Male. Becoming integrated doesn’t mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of one’s self. An integrated male is able to embrace everything that makes him unique: his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side. If you are single and are frequently told you are “too nice” and end up in the friend zone, if you are married and frustrated with conflicts or lack of sex, or if you are rotting in middle management in the workplace, this book is for you. If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how. Dr. Glover holds a Ph.D. in marriage and family therapy and is committed to empowering men to achieve dating and relationship success. He is a recovering Nice Guy. 

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

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Not great

Dude's bright, an excellent snake oil salesmen.
He fills his book with obviously anecdotal fake stories of his teachings successes to prove how his methods are correct and can help you. But in actuality provides very little substance. His descriptions of a "nice guy" are general blanket statements...like a psychic throwing out various statements to see what can stick. Then offers no really ways to help yourself.
This guy is so full of it, he even admits to 2 failed marriages and having to run off and find a wife who can't even speak English (and he himself indicating he is learning Spanish). So how helpful can his advice be if he can't even communicate properly with women?
I found this book to be a waste of time.

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Essential Material

Essential material for any man looking to improve his life, and for any woman who wants to be more authentic in relating.

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NOT WORTH THE DOUGH

I've read 27 books this year, trust me when I say there seems to be an emphasis on word count in this book. I also didn't care for the narrator. I wouldn't have posted a bad review, but after having read this book it would be presumptuous of me not to given the subject matter.

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Worth the money.

I will definitely be giving this book a second listen. I've gotta say, this book made me feel pretty bad about myself. Because I fit too many descriptions and am guilty of much of what was written. But it's about time I opened my eyes. It's time for a change.

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  • JL
  • 2020-02-08

Amazing in-depth content, narration okay

Absolutely necessary book for most men in existence. He described me down to the last details. Already applying some of his strategies, and I plan on seeking therapy and support groups. Unfortunately no official NMNG groups here in Canada.

The only thing that bothers me is the quality of the recording. He seems too boomy and lower end as compared to other recordings. This means I can’t always understand him even at full blast from my Bose Bluetooth speakers while I do chores (or shower), because the treble end seems weak or overpowered by the bass, so it sounds muffled. Other books seem fine, cutting through ambient noise.

He also reads the whole book very robotically. I get that he’s trying to enunciate every word separately and clearly and slowly enough, but there’s almost no flow or life to his phrases. So you might start tuning him out if you’re not focused enough.

Definitely a book I intend to keep and listen to over and over again, though.

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Must have for any man, or woman for that matter

Must have for any man born in a western country. Any any woman for that matter. It's an important topic that is now being addressed by more leaders and thank heavens for that. This material can change lives, families and communities. #Audible1

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One of the best books

It described many of the issues I had and how to solve them. I am glad I listened to this book, it was life-changing for me.

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Par l'exemple !

un des rares livres sur le sujet qui est explicite et regorge d'exemple applicable pour améliorer la situation.

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  • Cam
  • 2021-05-08

Extremely relatable.

Understand that not everyone will have the need or be able to relate to this book. For me, it was more realatbale than anything I've ever read or been told. I'm on my third time listening to it and only just starting the exercises. After I've done that I may buy the paper copy to be able to fill out exercises and highlight favorite parts. Highly recommend for you you of you're a Nice Guy. If you're ready for it.

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Very knowledgeable, good listen!

Would recommend this book if anyone needs a bit of in site. Good for developing minds to get a better a understanding of how to be as the say No more nice guy!

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  • jonathan
  • 2021-05-16

good

this Book is easy to understand.
The author gives plenty of good anecdotes and exercises.
he embraces differents areas of life such as love, sex, money and happiness in life.

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  • Heimana
  • 2020-03-08

Never date a nice guy

"Never date a nice guy", that should be the real title of this book.
For all the nice guys out there, this is THE therapy book that you need in your life. Go get some help if needed !

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-05-15

étonnant et utile

je viens de finir le livre et je vais appliquer ce qu'il propose de faire. Ce livre me donne le courage de vivre une vie meilleure et de me concentrer sur mes besoins en priorité

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  • lou.walker
  • 2018-07-24

Perfect book for all men

A powerful book to improve the life, sex and love of any guys who feel lacking some part of them.
Perfect.

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  • Alexandre
  • 2018-07-14

Mind-blowing, life-changing. A must read.

Despite having already changed a lot of things that I didn't like in my life and having already read a lot of essential books about self development, this one contains gems and unique insights to help you get better.

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  • Charles Mckeever
  • 2018-03-25

Nailed me right between the eyes

As a 46 year old male, ex-Marine, and self professed “nice guy” I finally understand that all this time, I have been causing my own pain. It hasn’t been my career, my spouse, my friends, my environmental conditions. The common factor in all those things has been me. No more Mr. nice guy described many of my own internal feelings like someone was reading my mind. Things that I’ve never told anyone. Now that I have clarity on these issues, I now have a way to work through them to be set free. I’ve already applied some of the techniques with immediate results. Mainly because the change started with me, which then encouraged positive responses from others. So basically, now I’m in the process of reviewing all of my thoughts and actions to challenge and change the defaults. If you even think this book might help you, take a chance. I did and I’m so very thankful to the author.

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  • throttle
  • 2018-02-05

literally fixed me

I struggled to find the answer to why my marriage failed and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. the book cured me of my condition. real help inside. actionable and practical.

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  • The Adventure Medic
  • 2018-10-26

Life Changing

Every man needs to read this book. Period.
It's everything you missed growing up, and everything you need to be a happier and better man than you ever thought possible.
There's no clearer way to say this, do not skip this book. It literally saved my life, my relationships, and opened the door to a life I never dreamed was possible for me.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2018-08-09

Only for nice guys!

Overall, this book tries to explain the origin of the nice guy and why he acts like he does. Some good excercises to help overcome nice guy syndrome, but I only recommend this book if this is your first read on the topic.

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  • Justin Cain
  • 2019-01-29

amazing book

listened to it multiple times. cant say enough about how its helped me, in my personal and professional life. this contained innumerable revelations about why I do the things I do, and how to better myself in those situations.

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  • David Rivera
  • 2019-01-16

dissatisfied with life? buy the book

exellent book! it helps you see, how you in childhood from not getting your needs met, adapted to patterns of not making a lot of trouble, not asking for things and putting other people needs before your own (to deserve love, attention or whatever you need ), and how that's making it difficult getting your needs met as an adult.
it forces you to see your darker, disfunctional sides and how you sabotage for yourself. it's hard and felt heavy sometimes, but in the end I think it's worth it.
it encourages you to seek support and help from safe people, therapist or join a support group, to help you through your problems and help you get your needs met. there are 45 different exercises with questions to help you see and change your behavior. I will listen to this book again and do all of them. thanks for a great book!

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  • david rocabado
  • 2018-08-06

Very insightful...

Upon listening to the book, I listened the sample and from there it started describing certain things that made sense in describing the type of person I may be. So now I want to learn more in which I did, but it definitely takes another listen. So much information about what you can learn from being too passive and explains just enough for you to understand ways to control your niceness. I'm hoping to learn more the second time around, so I can better understand myself and how I treat others... thank you!

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  • Bjorn Thorkelson
  • 2017-12-30

Practical guide for people pleasers

This book really resonated with me. It details many of the reasons and solutions for overcoming toxic shame. This is the updated version of the book. I’m not sure if the previous version had a pdf, but this one doesn’t. Tough to practically implement the recommended exercises without that.

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  • Paul Newman
  • 2019-07-28

This book will end your misery!

I’m a veracious reader, I typically read/listen to over 300 books per year. This is the book that I’ve searched for my entire life. In the span of seven hours, I went from being a scared four year old boy to a 45 year old man. This book reveals why you have troubles in life, relationships and sex. It gets inside your head like nothing else will. This book is pure magic. Dr. Glover gave me my life back when he wrote this book. I’ve already listened to it 4 times and it will be a regular recurring read throughout the remainder of my life. I only wish that I had read it years ago. 5 stars isn’t a high enough rating.

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  • MatthewFF
  • 2018-07-04

This book changed my life

Absolutely the worst best thing to ever happen to me. Finding this book saved my life. If you have ever been called a nice guy too much or consider yourself a nice guy read this book!

The first chapter was a punch to the gut and a knee to the face. my world was turned upside down immediately for the better. don't take my word for it. Get this book!

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