shattered my illusions

aimed at a female audience, but not overtly so. as a guy i had no trouble following the narrative, to my dismay. the biggest thing i got from this book was that most women seem to view sex as something they can do as much as something they want to do. a gift, a weapon, a token for trade, a duty, a show of mercy, a way of acting out... the title is very well worded. this book is not about what turns women on, though it does touch on that. but to women, it seems being turned on isn't really a prerequisite to having sex. if you're a male like me, expect to have your rico suave bubble busted. but enlightenment is like that sometimes. for me personally, ignorance is not bliss. i am glad i listened to this book.

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A book that lives up to its title

This book is exactly what the title says...it covers all the reasons women have sex. It does this by turning a scientific research study into a very entertaining book. You will finish the book with a more well rounded understanding if your a guy and if your a girl you may finally understand why you slept with some of the guys you did. It is not a how to sleep with women book (guys), but you can learn to understand women better and if you pay attention why women sleep with certain men for certain reasons (this book covers about all of them), you can pick what motivations you want to give woman and emulate that.
Overall a great book and a great narrative, I wish they reported all scientific research studies in this format!

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Informative and thought-provoking

Read this book because several women -- friends, girlfriends, spouse, etc. -- in my life have had issues with sex, and for some, are only now (in their 40's and 50's) really coming to terms with their sexuality. Wish I'd had this book fifteen years ago -- it is a well-researched and effectively reported discourse on the myriad emotions and physical needs that motivate sex... and the avoidance of sex. As the authors cover the subject, they include comments from the women they interviewed, offering a unique insight.

This book, along with Ian Koerner's "She Comes First" and Gail Sheehy's "Sex and the Seasoned Woman" form a great basis for both understanding sexual issues and positively, lovingly resolving those issues.

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nice

I disagree with the previous reviewer completely. I found this not only an interesting book (for men and women), but it was well-written and perfectly narrated. Would highly recommend it. I learned a lot of things that now seem so obvious.

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Written For Those Of Us At Middle School Level

Would you try another book from Cindy M. Meston and David M. Buss and/or Renee Raudman?

No.

Would you ever listen to anything by Cindy M. Meston and David M. Buss again?

No.

How could the performance have been better?

It seems to have been written for those of us with an I.Q. under 85. There are endless superficial, shallow examples given. Evidently, the authors are ageist at best. The number of subjects over age 30 whose experiences were told totaled approximately 3. This must be due to how clever and interesting American women under age 28 are.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Irritation that I had invested my time in listening. There are several excellent books on areas related to this topic.

Any additional comments?

I hope to avoid books written for idiots in the future.

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The writer goes way off topic.

This book covers everything from pre historic life to migraine research. I guess you could say that everything has something to do with sex but only a small part of this book addresses why women (in particular) have sex. I can sum it up for you and say; curiosity, trade, loneliness, social value, manipulation (both ways) and to shut up a nagging partner... not to mention pleasure.
Women way learn that safe and consensual sex is beneficial for your health and well being. Men may learn that being a high ranking member of a social group and or having wealth will attract women. But keep in mind that allot of the information sited in this book was collected long ago or over a long period of time (ex. Kinsey Reports). Women and men's choices and opportunities are very different than they where fifty years ago.

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Interesting enough

This is a fairly interesting book, and I have learned much about feminine psychology, but I find this book a little repetitive, one wonders if the book cannot be make shorter.

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How many reasons?

Enlightening and rich in details, the books only down-fall is that it seems to be written more for a female rather than a male audience. This is fine since us guys can extrapolate so much for the betterment of our relationships and answer the “What Do Women Want” riddle once and for all!

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Earth girls are easy

I wanted to know about females viewpoint on sex. I feel disgusted how the female Mind views sex. But I've taken this book to heart. I've broken up with my girlfriend and am currently having sex with more than one partner as now I know women are shallow and hold no value towards sex. I can say that this book was a godsend. I'm finally free of wanting sex and am now demanding it in exchange for time and company. To the authors, On behalf of all men I salute you. Semper fi

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Surprising and informative

First, let me say how exellent the narrator is. She made a research-oriented book come to life and remain interesting all the way through.
The book had some unexpected, sometimes amusing, important, and always interesting findings that could be of benefit to everyone, women and men alike. It was very easy to listen to, and I would highly recommend it.

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