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 Join us as we explore one of the most fundamental systems of the human psyche — the attachment system.Beginning with Ryan's raw honesty of his “bunker mode,” we trace how our earliest experiences of safety and connection become the internal compass that guides how we love, trust, and belong throughout life. Drawing on the work of John Bowlby and Dr. Dan Brown, the conversation travels from developmental psychology to contemplative practice — from the map to the terrain.You’ll hear how attachment styles form (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized), what they feel like in everyday life, and how they can transform through safe relationships, mindfulness, and the rediscovery of something larger holding us all.Ryan leads a grounding meditation that reawakens the felt sense of safety and belonging in the body. Together, we explore what it means to experience external safety with others, internal safety within ourselves, and transpersonal safety with life itself.Blending neuroscience, spirituality, and lived experience, this conversation is a gentle reminder: safety isn’t something we earn — it’s something we remember.00:00 – Welcome to Remembering You00:58 – Ryan’s “bunker mode” — from strength to shutdown03:45 – When triggers flip the nervous system05:55 – “Make me better” — why fixing doesn’t work07:12 – The map vs. the terrain of healing10:00 – The roots of attachment and the need for safety11:08 – What is the attachment system?12:00 – Why belonging is as vital as breathing13:07 – The three questions we’re always asking: Am I lovable? Are others reliable? Is the world safe?21:10 – John Bowlby and the birth of attachment theory24:00 – The internal working model — our human operating code25:05 – Grounding practice: finding safety in the body30:00 – Feeling held by the ground — safety that precedes us33:00 – Remembering, not learning35:07 – How attachment styles form36:37 – Secure attachment — the base for connection and autonomy46:00 – When leaders model secure attachment47:00 – Insecure attachment: anxious, avoidant, and disorganized52:00 – The anxious attachment strategy53:10 – The avoidant attachment strategy (“bunker mode”)56:00 – How stress makes us shift between styles57:00 – Disorganized attachment and the fear–love paradox59:50 – Healing patterns — building new neural roads1:00:25 – Enter Dr. Dan Brown — repairing attachment in adulthood1:02:20 – The three layers of safety: external, internal, transpersonal1:05:55 – Ryan’s story of men’s council and belonging1:07:04 – Attunement and being truly seen1:08:15 – Reparenting and internal caregiving1:10:11 – Metacognition — being the witness, not the storm1:17:00 – Fear and the steady presence that holds it1:19:00 – Transpersonal safety and trust in life itself1:21:50 – Remembering you are held by something larger1:23:01 – Reflection: who helps you feel safe and loved?1:25:32 – Attachment in leadership, culture, and creativity1:27:31 – The Psalms and ancient echoes of secure attachment1:31:03 – The Buddhist refuge and co-regulation in community1:33:09 – Attachment at the end of life1:35:00 – Closing reflections and Rumi’s “The Guest House”Website | www.RememberingYou.LifeInstagram | www.instagram.com/rememberingyou.lifeFacebook | www.facebook.com/rememberingyou.lifeSubscribe to the Remembering You podcast:iTunes | https://link.rememberingyou.life/epx8OT Spotify | https://link.rememberingyou.life/9Ittfm iHeartRadio | https://link.rememberingyou.life/HWGmb7 YouTube | https://link.rememberingyou.life/QgNJyP Join the Remembering You community on Patreon and learn about our offerings and upcoming events! https://link.rememberingyou.life/pbdCkj Podcast music licensed for non-commercial use by mobygratis.com#RememberingYou
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