You know that low-key identity crisis that hits somewhere around 38–42? The mood swings, the random rage, the 3 AM wakeups, the nostalgia for your 90s life and the feeling that you’re somehow running out of time?

It might not just be burnout. It might be perimenopause.

In this episode, I’m talking with Lauren Tetenbaum — therapist, former lawyer, certified menopause practitioner, and author of Millennial Menopause — the bright pink book I found in Barnes & Noble that basically helped birth this podcast.

We get into:

• Why so many millennial moms feel “off” but can’t put their finger on why
• What perimenopause actually is (and why the label matters less than your symptoms)
• The sandwich-generation pressure cooker: little kids, aging parents, and a changing body
• Millennial rage, overstimulation, and feeling like a “different person” overnight
• How to ask for what you need at home and with your doctor without feeling stupid or dramatic
• Why surrounding yourself with women in their 50s can make turning 40 feel less terrifying
• How perimenopause can become a permission slip to rest, reset, and re-write this next phase

If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this perimenopause or am I just losing it?” this conversation is your sign you’re not alone — and you’re not powerless.