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In this Mindset Monday episode, the discussion takes on a common belief from men that sounds reasonable on the surface but falls apart under scrutiny: “Why should I have to change? You knew who I was when you married me.” The episode unpacks why this thinking misunderstands adulthood, freezes responsibility, and treats growth as betrayal. It explores why qualification never ends in any area of life and why relationships are no exception.

From there, the focus shifts to shame and its role in change. The episode challenges the idea that shame is always harmful and reframes it as something that can either fuel growth or shut it down, depending on how it’s handled. It breaks down the difference between toxic shame and healthy shame, how ego protection keeps people stuck, and the exact moment where real growth actually begins.

The episode closes by distilling growth into a simple truth: the degree to which someone can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth they can accept about themselves without running away. If you’re trying to rebuild trust, show up better in your relationships, or stop repeating the same patterns, this episode offers both a reality check and a path forward.

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