You planned a sweet, simple family moment… and instead you snapped. The cake, the chaos, the constant questions—then the guilt. If that’s familiar, Episode 294 is for you. We walk with Leanne through a birthday that went sideways and rebuild a better way using the PEACE framework.

I begin with my clarifying prompt: “If you looked back six months from today and caregiving felt easier—what would need to have happened, keeping your health and your relationships in mind?” Leanne’s answer was honest: less frustration, more patience.

Why frustration rises Frustration often lives in the gap between expectations and reality: we assume our loved one can handle more than they can—or we take away abilities they still have. Naming where they truly are (my “buckets,” not rigid stages) helps you right-size plans. Leanne’s mother-in-law was in the middle “bucket,” skipping steps with hygiene and sequencing—so a busy party became a perfect storm.

PEACE Framework (your quick reset)

P – Person: What’s happening in her brain and body (tired, anxious, skipping steps)? E – Environment: Noisy? Unfamiliar? Competing demands? A – Activity: Over- or under-stimulated? C – Caregiver contribution: What did my fatigue or hurry add? E – Evaluate/Educate: What will I change next time?

One skill that transforms the day Practice cheerful repetition: answer like it’s the first time—every time. “Where do I put my purse?” “Right here, love.” Not, “I already told you.” Cheerful supply of information lowers anxiety—for both of you. Give it 60 days; it’s a muscle that grows with practice.

Leanne’s takeaway: stay cheerful with repetition and use PEACE after each incident to learn instead of spiral. If you want steady help, join our faith-centered Christian DigniCare Society—lifetime community, prayer, and live coaching so you’re not figuring this out alone.

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