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7.14 Awareness of the Inner Villain - Reflections on the Vain Controller, Eternal Child, and Righteous Bully

7.14 Awareness of the Inner Villain - Reflections on the Vain Controller, Eternal Child, and Righteous Bully

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 Kristina and Anna explore three Inner Villains in practice—how they show up in real life, what their “medicine” looks like, and what integration can unlock. Stories include a cross-country “house tour” of legends, a vulnerable experiment with the Vain Controller, and a candid breakdown of Righteous Bully dynamics at home.Timestamps00:00 — Catch-up: Niagara River energy, moving into an RV, new podcast soft-launch, hosting 30 for Thanksgiving06:00 — Why this work hits differently when you start applying it07:00 — “Reversing the spin” and why we take gifts from each villain09:30 — The filter metaphor: turning life’s burn into clearer water10:30 — Vain Controller in the wild: image, status, resources, and vulnerability practice17:45 — Scarcity vs strategic generosity; non-transactional networking21:00 — The “villain houses” road trip: Inventor, Equalizer, Traveller, Nothing, Healer, Hungry Shapeshifter33:45 — Eternal Child patterns, enabling, and compassionate honesty39:20 — Righteous Bully 101, medicine, legend, and a domestic case study55:00 — When “surrendered” gets stuck, and stepping back into leadership57:00 — Take the Villain Quiz and next stepsVillain deep divesVain Controller (VC)Core patternSeeks safety through appearance, performance, and perceived success.Manages for resources and status; swings between vanity and vulnerable insecurity, and between scarcity control and trusting abundance.Legend: The InventorUses resources creatively, shares generously, and builds networks that multiply value.MedicineVulnerability and confession.Strategic generosity over transactional control.Practising trust that resources and relationships are renewable.Practices you can tryMicro-confession: when you feel the urge to posture or criticize, name the fear underneath to a safe person.Non-transactional gift: offer one connection, resource, or introduction this week with no ask attached.Audit your “appearance routines”: keep what is self-respecting, release what is fear-managing.Moments to listen forThe “snark, then confess” experiment, and what it revealed about fear of failure and being unlovable.The networking story that models non-transactional giving.Eternal Child (EC)Core patternEntitled to care, victim-armoring, denial, and story-bending to avoid responsibility.Draws disproportionate resources in the “drama triangle.”Legend: The TravellerExpands perspective through literal or metaphorical travel, meets life directly, and participates in fair exchange.MedicineCompassionate honesty and natural consequences.Replace enabling with clear agreements and accountability.Perspective-expansion experiences.Practices you can tryOne honest sentence: state the concrete impact of a behavior without softening the facts.Consequence alignment: stop padding timelines, covering, or reframing the truth.Perspective field-trip: choose an experience that expands empathy and scale.Moments to listen forThe “villain houses” tour and how a welcoming, playful home embodied the Traveller.How enabling keeps everyone living inside someone else’s “fake world,” and what shifted when honesty landed.Righteous Bully (RB)Core patternOpinion hardens into gospel, dissent becomes threat, and “correction” tips into character assassination.Gift hidden inside: raw leadership energy.Legend: The ChannelerHolds a strong point of view, listens deeply, integrates the wisdom of the group, and leads fairly.MedicineThe Surrendered: curiosity, humility, and shared problem-solving.Distinguish data, opinion, and impact.Repair through ownership rather than domination.Practices you can tryThree breaths, three questions: What am I assuming, what else could be true, what would repair look like.Tone check in the kitchen: correct the action, not the person.Leadership rep: where do I need to stop over-surrendering and actually lead.Moments to listen forThe vestibular case study: fury when sound advice wasn’t followed.The “jumpy house” story: how fear of a blow-up created the perfect storm, and what repair requires.Kristina’s flip-side: when over-surrendering blocked necessary leadership on IP and contracts.Key ideas and languageReversing the spin: Integration is not skipping villainy, it is harvesting its gifts and re-orienting them.The filter metaphor: Life’s burn leaves ash, charcoal, and heat; arranged well, they clarify the water of love.Non-transactional generosity: Strategic resourcing without ledgers grows real networks.Pull quotes“We’re not meant to be just heroes and legends. You take a gift back from being a villain.”“Compassion without honesty is enabling. Honesty without compassion is punishment.”“Leadership isn’t losing your opinion, it’s holding it while you listen.”Resources mentionedInner Villain Quiz — link in show notesArticles and videos on Vain Controller, Eternal Child, Righteous Bully — link in show notesThe Executive & The Mystic podcast — link...
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