Jealousy. It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. And yeah—it definitely gives us the ick. But what if jealousy is actually trying to help us? In this episode of Ditch the Ick, Katie sits down with the incredible Dr. Joli Hamilton to unravel everything we don’t talk about when it comes to jealousy in relationships—monogamous, non-monogamous, and everything in between. Together, they dig into: Why jealousy isn’t inherently toxic (but suppressing it can be) How polyamorous and monogamous folks experience jealousy differently What it really means when your body screams “NO” but your mouth says “I’m fine” The shadow side of desire (yes, we talk smut 📚) How emotional self-awareness changes everything—from dating apps to lifelong partnerships Whether you’re navigating open relationships, reflecting on your past dynamics, or just ready to stop feeling like the “crazy jealous girl,” this episode gives you tools, validation, and a whole new way to look at your emotional landscape. Meet the Guest: Dr. Joli Hamilton Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She’s a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT-certified sex educator. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and NPR. Joli helps people build non-monogamous partnerships that are deeply authentic—no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required. She's also the co-host of the Playing with Fire podcast alongside her anchor partner, Ken. Follow & Connect with Joli: Instagram: @drjoli_hamilton YouTube: Dr. Joli Hamilton TikTok: @drjoli_hamilton Resources Mentioned: Jealousy Roadmap – Joli’s free guide to navigating jealousy with curiosity instead of shame Feelings & Sensations Wheel by Lindsay Braman Dr. Joli’s “Befriending Jealousy” Workshop Books Mentioned: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy Ready to ditch the ick? If this episode hit you in the gut (in a good way), don’t forget to: Leave a 5⭐ review on your favorite podcast app Screenshot and tag @ditchtheickpod + @ladykatiecarson Share it with a friend who needs to hear they’re not “too much” for feeling jealous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices