Our text comes from Romans 15:2,

"Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up."

This verse is written for the church community. Yet, Paul uses the word neighbour, which is rarely used except in the commandment, "Love your neighbour as yourself." So, we can apply this instruction to contexts outside the church. It a good word of wisdom for daily living. How might we apply it to our workplaces, communities in which we volunteer, and even in our homes?

It is important to recognize that we build others up without desire for personal return or benefit. It's encouragement for its own sake, to lift others up and cheer them on. It does have the goal of community building; a desire to see an increase in the wellbeing of the group. But there is no "tit for tat" intended here.

This is easier said than done. Criticism comes more naturally to most of us then encouragement. We often frame critique as a means of building up, even though we are aware that it rarely brings positive results. It creates fear and competition. It weakens a sense of community and diminishes a desire to work together.

As you enter a community, wonder to yourself how you can bless the people there? How can you lift them up? Offer words of blessing rather than complaint or correction. Be sincere. Give thanks and appreciation for something someone has done or a quality you admire.

There are practical ways we can build others up. Be on time for events, even a little early so you can help set up or stay behind to help clean up. Offer a ride to someone who can't get around. Pay attention to people who are in a different stage of life or more difficult situation. See if there is a practical way you can help them out.

Sometimes I find little gifts on my desk: a plate of cookies, a jar of honey, or even electronic gadgets. Some are anonymous, some not. They all delight my soul. This is not a solicitation for more, just an illustration of encouragement.

To bless someone includes speaking well of them. It means to see someone's energy and honour it as a source of joy and delight. To greet one another with enthusiasm – I'm glad to meet you. I've missed you. I've been wanting to talk with you. It means we refrain from derogatory comments, even when they are not nearby.

We don't always get encouragement right. But we should give one another grace and not give up. By God's grace, let's keep practising and growing in encouragement as we seek to build one another up.

As you journey on, go with the blessing of God:

Wherever God takes you today, may He fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit and that you may live carefully—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.