What if grief had a “light at the end of the tunnel”… and that light was legacy?

Episode Summary

In this zero-prep, all-heart conversation, Adrienne sits down with Patricia D. Freudenberg—known as Patty from New York—to explore how we can move from grief to revival through legacy. After 33+ years behind the chair in her salon, Patty witnessed how loss shows up in everyday life. That lived experience led her to create Miss-U-Gram, a free memorial platform, earn her end-of-life coaching certification, and write Live Your Legacy, a workbook-style guide to gently redirect grief into meaning and momentum. We talk practical tools, “grief etiquette,” and why being seen, heard, and validated is medicine.

About Patricia

Patricia D. Freudenberg is the founder of Miss-U-Gram, host of Legacy Café, a certified end-of-life coach, public speaker, and author of Live Your Legacy. She champions “death to life” recovery through legacy, community, and simple, doable practices that help people return to the “land of the living.” Learn more: https://miss-u-gram.com/patricia-freudenberg/

Highlights & Takeaways

→ Legacy as the 7th stage: Beyond acceptance and meaning, Patty frames legacy as the “light at the end of the tunnel.”

→ Seen. Heard. Validated. Why being witnessed is often what unlocks recovery.

→ Redirection beats rumination: Journaling, reading short chapters, and “coping with color” give the mind a new path.

→ Morning for mourning: A simple practice to face the hardest part of the day with intention. → Grief etiquette (teaser): The best phrase when words fail: “I’m here for you.”

→ The butterfly mark: Miss-U-Gram’s black/white butterfly symbolizes body + soul, endings + continuance.

→ Free starter tools: Patty offers a coupon for a downloadable “living will” to start vital family conversations.

Quotable Patty

• “I believe in revival—bringing death to life through legacy.”
• “I might not be for everybody… but I’m for somebody.”
• “Your fire is still burning.”
• “Ask the most loving question: Is this working for you?”

Resources Mentioned

• Patricia’s site & bio: https://miss-u-gram.com/patricia-freudenberg/
• Miss-U-Gram (memorial platform): https://miss-u-gram.com
• Book: Live Your Legacy (find via Patricia’s site → Shop → Amazon)
• Free download: “Live Your Legacy” living-will starter — use coupon LYL on the Shop page
• Community room: Legacy Café (Clubhouse) — grief recovery room hosted by Patty

Connect with Patricia

• Website: https://miss-u-gram.com
• Shop/Book: via site → Shop (use LYL for the free living-will starter)
• Legacy Café (Clubhouse): search Miss-U-Gram / Legacy Café

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How do you build a business someone actually wants to buy—without losing your sanity or your legacy?

Business coach and Certified Exit Planning Advisor (CEPA) Len Bruskowitz of FocalPoint Coaching shares how to create a company that thrives beyond its founder. From documenting processes to picking the right exit path, Len explains why most owners need 3–5 years of runway, how to escape the “everything lives in my head” trap, and the 40+ factors that drive real business value.

Key Takeaways

→. Document or discount. Five-minute screen-record SOPs beat a thousand sticky notes.

→. Spend time in the Strategic “I,” measure in the Managerial “I,” and delegate the Technician “I.”

→. Fire the wrong customers. Don’t hand a buyer low-margin, high-drama accounts.

→. Start early. Three to five years of prep protects your price and your peace of mind.

→. Match the exit to your goals. Cash-out, succession, or management buyout—each has trade-offs.

Quotes from Len

• “Buyers want a turnkey business, not you.”
• “If you try to sell before you’re ready, you’ll take a huge discount—if you can sell at all.”

How to Reach Len Len Bruskowitz, CEPA –

FocalPoint Coaching 📞 617-356-8102

🌐 Search “Len Bruskowitz FocalPoint” to connect directly.

What if the difference between poverty after divorce and a fair settlement is simply…knowing what to subpoena?

Summary: Becky explains how subpoenas function as a strategy (not a scare tactic) to surface bank records and other documents that courts and mediators need. She breaks down common mistakes, why many requests get rejected, and how to advocate for yourself—even with an attorney on your team. Her mantra: “Soften your heart, sharpen your process.”

5 key takeaways

→ A subpoena is a court-backed demand for information or appearance; it’s often the fastest way to get missing financials onto the record.

→ Precision matters: each bank/organization has its own acceptance rules; sloppy service = delays, rejections, and higher costs.

→ You can subpoena records without an account number; target the institution correctly and follow their procedure.

→ Attorneys are busy; you still must advocate for yourself—ask “What are our options to get this accepted?” and don’t accept “it was rejected” as the end.

→ Aim for “Divorce Strong”: fair/equitable outcomes and a peaceful heart—you win more with information and composure than with war.

Not legal advice: Becky is not an attorney; this episode shares experience and general education. Connect with Becky on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/