What if marriage isn't about finding someone who will serve you, but about becoming someone who serves like Jesus? And could the greatest spouse actually be the greatest servant?

In this episode, we explore how biblically serving one another is not optional in marriage—it's foundational. Starting with Ephesians 5:21, "Submit yourselves to one another in the fear of God," we break down what mutual submission really means and why people get so caught up on that word.

We discuss practical ways submission looks in everyday life: putting your spouse's needs ahead of your preferences, choosing humility over pride, and choosing unity over winning. We address the power struggle many marriages face and confess that our flesh constantly fights against servanthood—which is why we need God at the center.

Drawing from Mark 10:45 where Jesus came not to be served but to serve, we challenge couples to "outserve each other." We explore how husbands are called to love like Christ—sacrificially, patiently, protectively, and self-giving. This includes leading with humility, loving when inconvenient, and putting their wife's emotional and spiritual well-being first.

Wives are called to serve with strength and honor, not out of obligation but out of love and reverence for God. We discuss the danger of complaining about your spouse to friends and the importance of respecting each other through words, tone, and facial expressions (eye rolls shut down communication instantly!).

Using Jesus washing the disciples' feet as our model, we share what "foot washing" looks like in marriage: forgiving quickly, serving when tired, loving when hurt, and choosing grace over resentment. We emphasize that your marriage is a living sermon—a light that may be the only example of Jesus some people ever see.

Real love is demonstrated in the small, unseen sacrifices done consistently. Marriage is not a contract of convenience—it's a covenant of sacrifice where two people say "I'm here to serve you, not use you."

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