In this episode of Better MENtal Health, we sit down with coach and Enneagram expert Josh Lavine to explore the Enneagram not just as a personality tool, but as a tool for mental health, growth, and authenticity.

Josh breaks down the 9 Enneagram types through the lens of body, heart, and mind, and shares his own journey of discovering what authenticity meant to him.

Whether you're brand new to the Enneagram or deep in the work, this conversation is full of insights into identity, therapy, and how we accidentally forget who we are, and how to come back home.

⏱ Timecodes

00:00 – Intro & Meet Josh

01:20 – What is the Enneagram?

02:10 – Why We Start With Type 8

04:00 – Body Types: 8, 9, 1

08:42 – Heart Types: 2, 3, 4

12:10 – Mind Types: 5, 6, 7

17:00 – All Three Hosts Are 9s!

18:20 – Growing Up Disconnected from the Body

21:00 – Josh’s Breakdown & Burnout at Princeton

26:00 – The Search for Authenticity

27:00 – How the Enneagram “Found” Him

33:40 – The Bermuda Triangle: Type 3/6/9

36:50 – Finding Yourself Again (and Again)

39:00 – Why the Enneagram Is So Effective for Mental Health

42:00 – What Does It Mean to Live From Essence?

44:10 – Nines and the “Accidental Blankness”

47:00 – Enneagram in Executive Coaching

48:40 – Why You Need the Whole System

50:00 – Wrap-Up + Where to Find Josh

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Links mentioned in the video

joshlavine.com

theenneagramschool.com

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In this raw and honest episode of Better MENtal Health, we open up about the insecurities we've carried, from being a late bloomer and feeling small, to hair loss, social anxiety, public speaking fears, impostor syndrome, and everything in between.

We dive into:

• How comments from others (even years ago) still shape our self-image
• Why some insecurities live in silence for too long
• How opening up can rewire shame
• And what we’re learning in therapy and life about reclaiming self-worth

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Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro: Why We’re Talking About Insecurities

1:06 – Blake: “I was always the small one”

4:30 – Jamie: Middle school, puberty, and height anxiety

7:55 – Blair: No body hair, skinny arms, and internalizing comments

10:48 – Humor as a shield & deflecting with jokes

12:12 – When external comments land as deep shame

14:30 – Blair: Being a “late bloomer” emotionally and physically

16:00 – Jamie: Balding, over-fixating, and identity shifts

19:20 – Blake: The shame of public speaking and insecurity in group settings

22:05 – Blair: "Am I smart enough?" and math anxiety

23:30 – Insecurity in non-monogamy and comparison culture

25:55 – The power of voicing insecurities out loud

27:00 – Letting go of shame and rewriting internal scripts

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In this episode, Blair and Blake (Jamie’s out this week) get personal about their own therapy experiences: the good, the awkward, and the deeply human.

We talk about:

- How hard it can be to find a therapist you actually connect with

- What it’s like to leave a therapist when it’s not working

- Why in-person vs. virtual therapy hits differently

- Our own mental health struggles around things like insecurity, imposter syndrome, and hair loss

- The difference between individual therapy and group therapy

- Why therapy isn't just for "big" trauma — and how "little" traumas affect us too

- What to look for in a therapist (even if you're not totally sure what you need yet)

- And how opening up can feel terrifying — but also completely life-giving

This episode is for the guy who’s thought about therapy but doesn’t know where to start.

🎧 Got a therapy story or question? Drop it in the comments or DM us — we want to hear from you.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 – Welcome and Jamie’s absence

0:45 – Why we’re sharing our therapy journeys

1:56 – Finding a therapist through the “No More Mr. Nice Guy” community

3:08 – Individual therapy vs. group therapy experiences

6:34 – Ending a therapy relationship: Blair’s story

10:00 – Do we prefer in-person or virtual therapy?

13:10 – When therapy just isn’t clicking

15:00 – The “dating” analogy of finding a therapist

17:00 – Why opening up feels risky, especially for men

18:45 – Balding, confidence, and internalized shame

22:00 – Ketamine-assisted therapy and future mental health tools

26:00 – Imposter syndrome, self-worth, and men's identity

30:47 – Why we sometimes stay too long with the wrong therapist

34:00 – What a first therapy session actually feels like

36:00 – “Are my problems big enough for therapy?”

38:40 – Big T vs. little t trauma explained

41:00 – Nuance, invalidation, and why most people carry trauma

45:00 – “You’re just paying someone to care about you” myth

47:50 – Why most therapists do genuinely care

50:30 – The emotional toll of suppressing vs. expressing

54:00 – Why therapy takes courage — and why it matters

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