My Bi Sex with Another Man (Part 1)

In this episode, Khalil kicks off Men Seeking Men: A First Time Guide with a raw, judgment-free look at what it’s like to have sex with another man for the first time. We talk about the mental side of stepping into intimacy with a man, the importance of ongoing consent, and how to handle nerves and curiosity. Khalil breaks down the realities of oral sex, rimming, and anal basics—what it actually feels like, how to prepare, and how to take your time.

We also get real about top, bottom, and vers roles—why they’re just preferences in penetration, not personality types or proof of masculinity.

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Referenced in This Episode

• CDC – Sexual Health & Consent Basics

• Mayo Clinic – Anal Sex: Tips for Safety

• Bisexual Resource Center – Language & Identity

Bi+ Black Men: Online Dating Culture

Khalil breaks down the world of online dating for men dating men for the first time—from Grindr, Jack’d, Scruff, Tinder, Hinge, and OkCupid to apps like BiCupid, Feeld, and Sniffies. We talk about how to start conversations without assumptions, how to flirt respectfully, common profile slang (NSA, UB2, PnP, “looking for generous”), and the red flags to avoid, like discriminatory language and shady vibes.

We also cover safe practices for meeting up in person, and Khalil closes with a reminder to protect yourself, move with intention, and stay true to who you are.

Next episode: How to Have Sex (for men seeking men for the first time).

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Khalil breaks down the bi+ spectrum—from sexual vs. romantic attraction to bisexual, pansexual, fluid, omni, ace, aromantic, and more. We also dive into the masc/fem spectrum, showing how these energies aren’t tied to sex or gender. Clear, real, and made for our community.

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Referenced in This Episode

• Human Rights Campaign – Health Disparities Among Bisexual People

• Trevor Project – National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health

• Bisexual Resource Center – Bi+ spectrum definitions & resources

• Judith Butler – Gender Trouble (masc/fem spectrum & gender theory)