She breaks down the core elements of intimacy, including vulnerability, presence, play, touch, and verbal connection, and shows how each one can become inhibited when childhood environments did not allow those needs to be expressed safely. This episode offers a compassionate, practical path forward by reconnecting with the walled-off parts of ourselves, taking small steps toward openness, and learning to differentiate past fears from present-day safety.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Intro
• [01:30] Intimacy as a primal human need
• [04:33] Why intimacy feels difficult and is rooted in early attachment
• [11:25] Siloing ourselves as a way to avoid the pain of being fully seen
• [17:56] Complaining, withdrawing, or avoiding as protector responses to vulnerability.
• [23:26] Intimacy is being fully ourselves and deeply witnessed
• [26:28] Key forms of intimacy and how childhood environments inhibit them
• [32:12] Your nervous system applies past experiences to adult relationships
• [34:00] Why we choose partners who mirror or caregiver’s traits
• [38:57] Reconnecting with walled-off parts to build inner intimacy
• [42:05] Taking small, tolerable steps toward intimacy with a safe partner
• [46:12] Seeing a partner’s inhibited intimacy with compassion
• [47:50] Question 1 - How our protectors misinterpret healthy partners as unsafe
• [1:00:03] Question 2 - Differentiating adult needs from younger parts seeking reassurance
• [1:10:46] Question 3 - Healing low sexual desire shaped by past trauma

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Quotes:

“If someone only gets 25% of me, or a portion of me, and then they choose they don't want me, or they don't want to be in my life, I can tolerate that because they haven't witnessed or experienced all of me.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:51]

“The result of being siloed is that no one actually ever fully knows you. And one of the primary places that we will silo ourselves, or feel inhibited in being in our fullness, is [in] our romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:39]

“Complaining is a form of self-protection.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:07]

“The thing that we all want, perhaps the most, in a romantic relationship is to be deeply seen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:36]

“We all pick partners that mirror for us the good qualities of our childhood caregivers and also the not-so-good qualities of our childhood caregivers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:02]

“Sexual pleasure is simply the embodied practice of intimacy.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:15:40]