Attachment is the deep emotional bond between you and your child. When babies feel safe, loved, and cared for, they develop secure attachment, which helps them grow into confident, independent, and emotionally healthy children.

Attachment happens when your child learns they can rely on you to meet their needs—whether it’s for food, comfort, or love. From the moment they’re born, babies are looking for signs that they are safe and cared for. Every time you soothe their cries, smile at them, or respond to their needs, you’re helping build that sense of security.

A baby with secure attachment feels safe exploring the world because they know their caregiver will be there when needed. Signs of secure attachment include:

● Seeking comfort from a parent when upset

● Being happy to see their parent after separation

● Exploring their environment but checking back in with their parent

● Trusting their parent to meet their needs

As your child grows, secure attachment might look like a toddler returning to you for reassurance during play, or a preschooler seeking comfort after a hard day.

When babies don’t consistently get the comfort or attention they need, they may develop insecure attachment. This doesn’t mean parents don’t love their child, it just means the baby may feel unsure about whether their needs will be met. Signs of insecure attachment might include:

● Avoiding comfort or closeness with a caregiver

● Clinging excessively and having trouble exploring

● Seeming indifferent to a caregiver’s presence

The good news? Attachment is not about being perfect, it’s about being responsive most of the time.

You don’t need fancy toys or a complicated plan to create secure attachment. Small, everyday moments matter most. Here’s how:

1. Respond to Your Child’s Cues – When your child cries, coos, or reaches for you, try to respond. You won’t always know exactly what they need, but responding helps them feel understood.
2. Be Present and Engaged – You don’t need to entertain your child all day, but giving them your full attention, even for short moments, strengthens your connection.
3. Comfort Them When They’re Upset – When children feel scared or overwhelmed, they learn that emotions are safe when a caregiver soothes them.
4. Enjoy Play and Eye Contact – Singing, talking, and making eye contact during daily routines help your child feel connected to you.
5. Follow Their Lead – If your child reaches for a toy, talk about it. If they show excitement, share in it. These little interactions build trust.

Caring for a baby is exhausting, and no one can respond perfectly all the time. The good news is, you don’t have to! Research shows that babies need “good enough” parenting—meaning, if you respond to their needs most of the time, they will still develop secure attachment.

● Give yourself grace – You won’t always know what your baby wants, and that’s...