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Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

Auteur(s): Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services
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 Beyond the Facade is a podcast about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and with others. Each week host Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified addiction recovery and betrayal trauma coach) and his guests will explore the concepts of integrity and authenticity and how each is essential in building meaningful relationships. Listen in as we explore our own vulnerabilities in order to seek genuine connection to ourselves and to those around us. Join us as we go Beyond the Facade.Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services Relations Sciences sociales
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  • 74: Perfectionism and Shame

    74: Perfectionism and Shame
    Oct 23 2025

    Ever notice how the harder you try to get everything right, the more isolated and empty you feel? This week Luke unpacks perfectionism not as a personality flaw, but as a survival strategy—a shield we use to avoid shame and rejection.

    Drawing on Brené Brown's work and his own recovery journey, he explores why we chase an impossible standard and what it costs us in connection, authenticity, and peace.

    What You'll Learn:

    • Why perfectionism is fear-based, not excellence-driven

    • How shame and control fuel the need to be "perfect"

    • Practical questions to shift from performance to presence


      Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠


    Connect With Us:

    • Learn more about Luke here.

    • Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

    • Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!

    • Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services

    Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

    • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

    • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

    Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

    • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

    • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.

    • Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

    • Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

    • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.

    Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    15 min
  • 73: The Myth of "I Told You Everything"

    73: The Myth of "I Told You Everything"
    Oct 16 2025
    What if claiming you’ve shared everything with your partner is actually sabotaging your recovery? In this eye-opening episode, Luke explains why the statement “I’ve told you everything is so damaging. He reveals how recovery works in layers, why humility trumps certainty, and how acknowledging what you don’t know yet actually builds more trust than claiming you know it all.Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠What you’ll learn:Why claiming full awareness breeds stagnation and relapse in recoveryHow denial creates constructed realities that feel safe but aren’t fully trueHow believing you’ve “made it” shuts down growthChapters01:10 The Problem of “I’ve Told You Everything”02:07 Constructed Realities and Denial04:33 Addictive Systems and Belief Structures07:40 The Illusion of Full Awareness13:43 Managing Outcomes vs. Living in Truth15:10 Practical Language for True AwarenessConnect With Us:Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    18 min
  • 72: You Can't Shame Yourself Into Change

    72: You Can't Shame Yourself Into Change
    Oct 9 2025
    Are you beating yourself up in the name of accountability and in the process accidentally blocking the very change you’re after? This week Luke challenges the myth that shame leads to transformation, sharing a powerful D-Day story where his self-loathing actually prevented him from hearing his partner’s pain. He breaks down why self-compassion isn’t about escaping accountability; it’s what makes genuine accountability possible.Listen to learn:Why shame blocks empathy and keeps you stuckHow self-compassion and accountability can exist in the same breathWhat self-compassion actually looks like in recovery (and it’s not letting yourself off the hook!)Chapters00:15 Luke’s Personal Story of Shame01:25 Understanding Self-Compassion03:19 Debunking Myths About Self-Compassion08:59 Real-Life Examples of Self-CompassionLAST CHANCE TO REGISTER!Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Apply for scholarships here. Connect With Us:Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    13 min
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