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  • Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
    Aug 24 2025
    Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Are you enmeshed in a BPD relationship? Why can’t you let go—even when it’s hurting you? This Codependency Inside Out, surviving cluster B episode explores the 5 trauma-rooted codependent hooks that keep you psychologically and emotionally enmeshed, fueling the cycles, in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.
    From rescuing and self-abandonment to enmeshment and fantasy bonding, you’ll learn how these unconscious patterns pull you deeper into the storm—and how to finally begin breaking free.

    You’ll Learn:
    – What enmeshment really is and why it feels like love
    – How your nervous system mistakes chaos for connection
    – Why self-erasure becomes a survival strategy– How to reclaim your identity and rebuild your boundaries

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    17 min
  • 7 'Codependency Doesn't Exist' Myths Debunked

    7 'Codependency Doesn't Exist' Myths Debunked
    Aug 17 2025
    7 'Codependency Doesn't Exist' Myths Debunked

    7 'Codependency doesn't exist' myths - from “It’s not in the DSM” to “It’s just empathy,” these claims are doing real harm—especially to those trying to recover from relational trauma and emotional enmeshment.
    If you've ever felt dismissed, invalidated, or confused by the growing trend of codependency denial, this episode is your grounding truth. Whether you're on your healing journey or supporting someone who is, this is the clarity you’ve been waiting for.In this episode, I dismantle the 7 most common myths used to deny the reality of codependency and used to falsely claim that Codependency doesn't exist or have any known patterns and even less formal clinical ties to what it actually is and means and how Codependency needs to be treated in recovery.
    💬 Leave a comment if you’ve encountered these myths and you know that you have Codependency and how painful it can be —and how you’re reclaiming your story.
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    15 min
  • The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck

    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
    Aug 5 2025
    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Are Stuck

    The BPD Fantasy of who you thought they were and then that loss, over and over again, is why Codependents are stuck in the Fantasy and Trauma Bond abandoning self not knowing how to face your own multi-layered pain now. The idea of letting go feels like an imminent ending to who you used to be, who you have lost in the BPD relationship that was a BPD Fantasy.

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    10 min
  • The Lost Self - Childhood Roots of Codependency

    The Lost Self - Childhood Roots of Codependency
    Aug 3 2025
    The Lost Self: Childhood Roots of Codependency


    The lost self - childhood roots of Codependency. The lost self in Codependency is not as profound or complete of a lost self as it is in Borderline Personality Disorder. To a lessor degree this is a partial over-lap with BPD but not enough to mean you have BPD. Codependency has its roots in childhood. It is what turns out to be in adulthood, a maladaptive reality that was adaptive and help you to survive adverse experience or trauma in your childhood.

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    25 min
  • Is Codependency Really An Addiction?

    Is Codependency Really An Addiction?
    Jul 31 2025
    Is Codependency Really an Addiction?

    An often asked, and I think, an often misunderstood question where Codependency is concerned. My answer in this podcast to "Is Codependency Really an addiction" with my 35 years experience working with clients in Codependency recovery is, "yes" and "no" and I think that this approach gives my clients the best of "both" possible asserted "understandings" of Codependency.

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    21 min
  • Struggling to Know Self Through a BPD Partner

    Struggling to Know Self Through a BPD Partner
    Jul 9 2025
    Struggling to Know Self Through a BPD Partner

    Codependency presents the struggle to know "self" through a BPD Partner and/or Ex. This is the Codependent part of the Trauma Bond. People with Codependency are repeating their own childhood woundedness, often unconsciously, in these toxic relationships. It just isn't all about the person with Borderline Personality. You need to become more consciously aware of your own choices and get into therapy to break the trauma bond and stop abandoning yourself.

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    33 min
  • Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependen

    Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependen
    Jan 17 2025
    Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependency

    A Youtube commenter asked can you be Codependent in a relationship with a partner with Codependency and both manifest codependency more as counter-dependency when each person in the relationship has had a previous Cluster B relationship?

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    25 min
  • Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems Re-Enacted In Adult Relationships

    Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems Re-Enacted In Adult Relationships
    Jun 11 2023
    Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems Re-Enacted In Adult Relationships

    People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family Sytems in Family of Origin in adulthood with people with BPD or NPD especially in significant other relationships. You need to focus on you now and your patterns and what you need to heal not continue to focus on a Borderline or a Narcissist and recycling relationship breakups with them which is only you repeating your multi-layered trauma and increasing your pain and loss of self.

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    50 min