What are the potential consequences of using terms like "do better" or "improve" without specifics?

How often have you heard (or said), “You need to do better” or “You have to improve your performance”?

It’s easy to assume others will understand what we mean, but as I discuss, vague language just breeds confusion. Clarity is everything, both for being understood and holding each other accountable.

Here are 3 key takeaways:

• Be Specific: Instead of using general terms like “improve” or “do better,” clearly outline what needs to be done. Specific, actionable steps lead to real progress.
• Check for Understanding: After giving instructions or feedback, ask the other person to repeat what you asked in their own words. This ensures your message was received as you intended.
• Write It Down: Provide numbered steps or written instructions. This makes expectations concrete and easier to follow, keeping everyone on the same page.

How do you make your requests and feedback clear? I’d love to hear your experiences!

Lillian Zarzar is an international speaker, author and coach who specializes in helping you to overcome the barriers that block you from self-expression.

Lillian believes that the ability to communicate effectively is the foundation of personal growth. Without it, you can neither express what you want nor can you offer others your wisdom.

Lillian's desire is to help you tap into your wisdom and follow your purposeful course. With belief and dedication, you enhance your personal growth, you engage with others meaningfully, and you embark on your road to self-mastery.

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What personal values do you think most clearly define you?

From the moment you’re born, so many labels are placed upon you—your name, your gender, your family, even down to the time and place of your birth. But are you only your physical traits or the roles you play in life? Or are you shaped by your interests, your relationships, your experiences, and your values?

In the episode, I reflect on how we are all complex beings, constantly evolving and redefining ourselves as we grow and interact with the world. We’re influenced by our families, our careers, our hobbies, and the communities we join. Even our health and the challenges we overcome become part of our identity.

But here’s the most powerful takeaway: You are the architect of your own life. With every choice, lesson, and action, you are designing and defining who you are. Your definition is dynamic, enriched by what you value and whom you connect with.

Lillian Zarzar is an international speaker, author and coach who specializes in helping you to overcome the barriers that block you from self-expression.

Lillian believes that the ability to communicate effectively is the foundation of personal growth. Without it, you can neither express what you want nor can you offer others your wisdom.

Lillian's desire is to help you tap into your wisdom and follow your purposeful course. With belief and dedication, you enhance your personal growth, you engage with others meaningfully, and you embark on your road to self-mastery.

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What steps are you taking toward fulfilling your calling if your current position does not support it?

Here are a few takeaways I share in the episode:

• A career goes beyond just holding a job. It’s a long-term commitment where you continually build skills and grow within a particular field. It comes from what I call an “internal locus of control." It's your dedication and drive to pursue your chosen discipline.
• A calling, meanwhile, is even deeper. It comes from a place of purpose and alignment with your true mission in life. Sometimes you discover your calling after you’ve already started on your career path, but it’s that persistent nudge you can’t ignore, urging you toward what truly fulfills you.
• Contribution is at the heart of everything. Whether you see yourself in a job, a career, or a calling, you play a vital role in your organization, community, and beyond. Your impact can be measurable and linear, or long-lasting and far-reaching, depending on the path you choose.

Reflective Questions for You:

• How does your current position support your career ambitions?
• Do you feel a calling in your work?
• What unique contribution are you making right now?

What’s Next? As you move through your day, I encourage you to reflect honestly on where you are and where you want to go. Are you living your dream, or is there something more you want to strive for?

Lillian Zarzar is an international speaker, author and coach who specializes in helping you to overcome the barriers that block you from self-expression.

Lillian believes that the ability to communicate effectively is the foundation of personal growth. Without it, you can neither express what you want nor can you offer others your wisdom.

Lillian's desire is to help you tap into your wisdom and follow your purposeful course. With belief and dedication, you enhance your personal growth, you engage with others meaningfully, and you embark on your road to self-mastery.

Connect with Lillian Zarzar

lillian@lillianzarzar.com

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Copyright 2025 Lillian Zarzar