Ever wonder who keeps fetish spaces on Reddit from falling apart? In this raw, honest, and long-overdue convo, I sit down with Cesar the long-time mod of Fetish Buyers Community and Fetish Want Ads and partner of creators spicy tea to talk about what it’s really like running the backend of these massive fetish subreddits.We go deep into burnout, boundaries, moderating chaos, and how being behind the scenes completely changed both our perspectives on the fetish community. This episode will challenge how you view buyers, sellers, and the power dynamics in online fetish spaces.We talk about the mental load of unpaid mod work, why moderation teams matter, how creators and buyers can communicate better, and what it actually takes to keep a market space safe and functioning for over 100,000 people. Cesar shares how he went from buyer to mod, what made him stay, and why it’s finally time to let go (but not without a legacy).If you’ve ever felt jaded, overwhelmed, or just curious about what really happens when something goes wrong behind closed doors, this one’s for you.This isn’t just tea. It’s the handbook on why community-led moderation matters and what needs to change for creators and buyers alike.Watch this if you want to:Understand Reddit fetish market dynamicsSee both buyer and creator perspectivesLearn what happens with scam reports & review processingReflect on burnout and boundaries as a creator/modLearn how better communication could change everythingWatch this if you want to:

✅ Understand Reddit fetish market dynamics

✅ See both buyer and creator perspectives

✅ Learn what happens with scam reports & review processing

✅ Reflect on burnout and boundaries as a creator/mod

✅ Learn how better communication could change everything

🌐 Visit the Reddit CST Communities:

Visit r/creators_spicy_tea: https://www.reddit.com/r/Creators_spicy_tea/

Visit r/FetishSpicyTea: https://www.reddit.com/r/FetishSpicyTea/

Criticism is inevitable when you're an adult creator. But what if learning how to respond to it could actually grow your business, increase client loyalty, and deepen your brand authority?In this episode of Creator’s Spicy Tea, Thelovelykacyy and alleyrope dive deep into the real ways adult creators face, feel, flourish and fumble through criticism, and how to flip it into sales, positive reviews, and lasting client relationships. Whether you’ve dealt with trolls, misaligned expectations, or unhelpful feedback, this is your roadmap to staying sane, professional, and profitable.You’ll hear real talk between two long-time creators about:✅ The difference between helpful critique and plain disrespect.✅ How to avoid reacting defensively (even when it hurts).✅ Turning customer complaints into repeat sales.✅ What NOT to do when a client isn’t happy.✅ Why your customer service skills matter after the sale.This isn’t surface-level advice—this is the gritty, behind-the-scenes tea on how creators survive and evolve in a judgment-heavy industry.Whether you're just starting out or already scaling your creator brand, this episode will help you shift your mindset, strengthen your boundaries, and build a business you’re proud of (even when the reviews aren't glowing).Your art is valid. Your business is real. Let’s talk about how to keep both thriving—even when it’s hard.Dive In More:📽️ Better Lighting = Better Contenthttps://youtu.be/BUweZ9da6lo?si=JIopjIs0qoIQY9Os🎧 The Fansly Formula with Thelovelykacyy https://youtu.be/bf4mihT0w4A?si=GclNiwYC2bWEqAmL

Parasocial relationships: we've all heard of them, but do we really understand their impact—especially in adult content spaces? In this episode of Creator’s Spicy Tea, we're peeling back the curtain on how these one-sided relationships form, the red flags to watch for, and the emotional, mental and even financial toll they can take on creators. We talk enforcement of boundaries and the importance of empathy. From fans who push boundaries to clients who feel entitled to your time, I’m sharing real experiences, hard truths, and actionable steps to protect yourself while still remaining successful in your business.No matter the platform, if you're an adult content creator, this conversation is a MUST. Let's talk boundaries, burnout, and safety—because your well-being ALWAYS comes first.

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