You've survived the marriage from Hades, signed the divorce papers, and maybe even had your ceremonial "burn the wedding dress" moment.

Your kids are grown, they have opinions (lots of them), and some of those opinions are... not in your favor. If you're wondering how to rebuild, repair, or even just exist in relationship with your adult children post-divorce without losing your mind (or your will to live), this episode is your safe space.

I sit down with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, for a conversation about the complex and often heart-wrenching work of parenting adult kids after divorce.

What We Talk About:

• How your adult kids might try to parent YOU
• Why their black-and-white thinking isn’t your fault, (but also maybe kind of is?)
• How we passed on rigid theology and why it complicates everything now
• When your child blames YOU for the divorce (hello, Christian programming!)
• The fine line between a heartfelt apology and a full-blown grovel-fest
• Using cognitive behavioral tools to detach from their drama and stay in your lane
• How to hold space for conflicting realities without losing your own mind
• Hope for reconciliation, even when it feels lightyears away
• What it means to bring the peace (no, not a pumpkin pie. Peace.)

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

Why do your kids act like little angels at their dad’s house and then transform into rabid raccoons the moment they step foot into your kitchen? No, it’s not because you’re failing as a mom (although that voice in your head might say otherwise).

It’s because YOU are the safe one.

In this episode, we unpack all of it: the chaos, the trauma, the meltdowns, and the sacred role you play in raising kids who actually make it out of this mess OK.

I sat down with Diana, Loretta, and Charlotte, three divorced Christian mamas who’ve done the hard work of parenting through PTSD, manipulation, religious confusion, and all the weird stuff your kids’ dad tries to pull post-divorce.

We Talk About:

• Why your kids hold it together at Dad’s house and come unglued at yours (hint: it’s not about “respect”)
• What Polyvagal Theory has to do with your kid whacking you in the head with a Richard Scarry book
• Why “big behavior” ≠ “bad kid”
• How Christian parenting culture gets trauma so wrong
• What to say (and what NOT to say) when your kid reports their dad’s latest antics
  Why curiosity > control when it comes to parenting
• Practical boundaries that protect your kids AND your sanity
• Reframing fear and people-pleasing
• The long game of parenting: trust, patience, and letting your kids learn to think for themselves

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.
• Contact Loretta at info@mycoachloretta.com

Ever wondered what happens to your church relationships when your marriage falls apart and you do the unthinkable (aka, choose not to be miserable for the rest of your life)? In this episode, I sat down with Diana, Stacey, and Marie, to talk about the real fallout that happens not just in marriage, but in the holy halls of church after divorce.

What We Talked About:

• How divorce changes everything about how you experience church
• What happens when you realize your church was more in love with patriarchy than Jesus
• Spiritual deconstruction (a.k.a. following Jesus out of the building)
• Learning to hear God’s voice (Head’s up: it’s not your ex, your pastor, or the elder’s wife)
• Releasing or renewing relationships after betrayal
• Forgiveness: what it is, what it isn’t
• How to support your kids spiritually without traumatizing them
• Rebuilding community outside of the institution (Zoom counts, y’all)

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Listen to the audiobook for All the Scary Little Gods by yours truly for FREE!
• Books mentioned: Freeing Jesus by Diana Butler Bass, The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu, and Faith After Doubt by Brian McLaren.
• Connect with Marie on her blog, Live Like it Matters, and website, Spiritual Direction with Marie.
• Connect with Stacey and find all her resources on her Linktree.
• Check out Diana’s podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast.