Ever felt like you’re doing everything and still being told you’re “lucky”? Let’s name what culture keeps invisible: the mother and father wounds that train women to carry the emotional and mental load while men are praised for “helping.” Digging into how these patterns form, why your nervous system might read imbalance as normal, and what it takes to build fair, loving homes without martyrdom.

I share how “we never argue” can hide suppression, why repair beats perfection, and how trained tolerance stealthily shapes who we choose and how we relate. We talk about weaponised incompetence, the praise economy that centres men for basics, and the subtle scripts that teach children Dad rests and Mum compensates. Then we move to solutions: shifting from “just tell me what to do” to proactive noticing, running weekly logistics councils, auditing the mental load, and raising kids who see and act. This is trauma-aware work, with space for nuance if anger once meant danger; we practise boundaries, co-regulation, and small wins that compound.

You’ll hear a reframe on healthy feminine and masculine energies as capacities we all hold—attunement and structure, receptivity and initiation—used not to excuse imbalance but to create presence, accountability, and ease. Awakening can be messy and grief-filled, yet it opens room for better agreements and genuine reciprocity. If you’re ready to stop tolerating what drains you and start building a household where contribution is shared and seen, this conversation is your map. If it resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review.

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