Boundary work sounds empowering — and it is — but no one tells you how strange it feels at first. When you begin honoring your limits, your nervous system doesn't throw a party; it throws a fit. In this episode, we unpack why your body equates "familiar" with "safe," even when familiar has meant people-pleasing, over-giving, or pretending you're fine. You'll learn why this discomfort doesn't mean you're doing something wrong — it means you're finally doing something different.

We'll also explore the family patterns that made boundaries feel like betrayal, and how learning to stay with that unease is how we begin to rewire safety from the inside out. This conversation isn't about blame — it's about awareness, compassion, and learning to calm your body while you practice a new kind of self-loyalty.

Three Takeaways

1. The body often mistakes self-abandonment for safety — until we teach it something new.

2. Boundaries may feel "wrong" at first because they disrupt old emotional rules.

3. Learning to stay with the discomfort is how real confidence and self-trust begin to grow.

Vulnerability isn't exposure;

it's invitation. It's saying,

'This is who I am —

can you meet me here?'

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