This week marks our 10-year wedding anniversary and if we’re being honest, the months leading up to it weren’t easy. Research even shows that around the 10-year mark, couples hit peak dissatisfaction.

But here’s the truth: challenges don’t mean your marriage is broken. They’re invitations to grow, reconnect, and come back stronger.

In this episode, we’re opening up about the 10 most powerful lessons from our 10 years together — the highs, the lows, the laughter, and the lessons that have shaped us as individuals, as partners, and as parents.

Whether you’ve been together 2 years, 20, or 50, these lessons will give you perspective, encouragement, and practical tools to stay on the same team in every season. Don’t miss this one—it might change the way you see your marriage.

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Episode Timestamps of What We Discuss:

0:00 – Why 10 years can be a breaking point for couples

3:20 – Lesson 1: Keep updating your shared vision

9:17 – Lesson 2: Connection is more than just being around each other

15:52 – Lesson 3: Differences can make you a stronger team

25:14 – Lesson 4: Becoming parents forces you to reconstruct your marriage

32:09 – Lesson 5: How you show up daily becomes how your marriage feels

39:37 – Lesson 6: Be more committed to repair than being right (or hurt)

47:49 – Lesson 7: Most arguments aren’t about the surface-level issue

53:03 – Lesson 8: Don’t shift from biggest supporters to biggest critics

59:59 – Lesson 9: The same challenges repeat until you learn the lesson

1:08:48 – Lesson 10: Sometimes you just need to have fun and switch the energy

1:12:43 – Final reflections after 10 years

What keeps couples united through all the ups and downs? A shared vision. In this episode of the Empowered Couples Podcast, we break down why having a vision together is essential, how to define your values as a couple, and the practical steps to keep you connected in both everyday life and during challenges.

Whether you’re in a hard season or just feeling stuck in routine, your vision as a couple is what pulls you out of the mundane and gives deeper meaning to your marriage.

In this episode you will hear:

-Why self-focus leads to more negativity (and how vision shifts that)

-The 4 steps to creating a shared vision for your marriage and family

-How values guide tough choices around career, parenting, and money

-Ways to connect daily life back to your bigger purpose together

-How to turn challenges into growth and strengthen your bond long-term

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Timestamps of Episode:
0:00 – Why self-focus increases negativity
0:18 – How vision helps you think beyond yourself
0:34 – The danger of losing sight of your shared values
0:47 – Making hard choices aligned with your vision
1:00 – Looking back on challenges with pride
1:19 – Welcome + episode introduction
1:55 – Why vision bonds couples from the beginning
2:14 – Losing sight of “why” in everyday life
2:38 – Announcement: The Best of Us 30-Day Challenge
3:18 – Why vision is collaborative and long-term
3:40 – The psychology of self-consciousness & negative emotion
4:23 – How lack of vision creates conflict cycles
4:39 – Seeing hard seasons in the bigger picture
5:18 – Finding meaning even in the mundane days
6:26 – Step 1: Moving from present pain to future vision
7:52 – How vision brings relief and peace
9:09 – Parenting example: values guiding hard choices
10:17 – Step 2: Defining higher values and purpose
11:25 – Career choices and money vs. vision
12:37 – Step 3: Creating a simple, memorable vision statement
13:47 – Aligning vision with values, actions, and results
15:29 – Expanding your vision beyond your family
16:06 – Vision boards and visual reminders
16:29 – Step 4: Connecting present challenges back to vision
17:09 – Real parenting example from our daughter
18:43 – Seeing challenges as stepping stones to vision
19:29 – Simple reflection questions for couples
20:18 – The Hero’s Journey and your marriage
20:38 – Looking back on challenges with pride and strength
21:07 – Who you want to become vs. what you want to achieve
21:59 – Why connection is the most fulfilling outcome
22:22 – Final reminder: Best of Us 30-Day Challenge
23:16 – Closing encouragement + subscribe & review

Marriage after kids can feel like survival mode. Once out of the immediate chaos, it can settle into a state of function. Between diapers, school runs, shuttling to sports practices, your work, and endless to-do lists at home, it’s easy to put your relationship on the back burner. But here’s the truth: your kids don’t just thrive on how well you care for them—they thrive on how connected YOU are as a couple.

In this episode of the Empowered Couples Podcast, Jocelyn & Aaron (“The Freemans”) share practical, real-life ways to stay emotionally and physically connected after kids. You’ll learn how to move beyond just “functioning” as roommates and bring back fulfillment, intimacy, and spark in your marriage before it’s too late.

If you’ve ever felt the distance growing, this conversation will give you hope and concrete steps you can implement today.

From this episode you’ll walk away with:

• How to make daily emotional check-ins that go beyond “How was your day?”
• Why non-sexual touch matters (and how to bring it back without pressure)
• Simple ways to make family dinners and daily routines bonding moments
• How to prioritize weekly and yearly quality time as a couple
• Why your kids benefit most when YOU thrive together

Don’t just survive marriage after kids—reignite the connection that makes everything else in family life easier. Not only is this for your own satisfaction, but critical for what you then model to your kids.

Want to reignite the spark and feel truly connected again? Join the Best of Us 30-Day Couples Challenge—a proven path to bring back emotional closeness, intimacy, and joy in your marriage. Enrollment only opens a few times per year, so don’t miss this round: https://mycoupleschallenge.com/best 👈

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Episode Topics Timestamp:

00:08 – Why putting your relationship on the back burner hurts your kids too

00:09:50 – The emotional wall couples feel after building the “dream life”

00:10:38 – Why dissatisfaction peaks around the 10-year mark (and how to avoid it)

00:13:37 – Connection is what makes parenting and life easier

00:14:00 – Step 1: Daily emotional check-ins (not just logistics)

00:19:18 – Step 2: Non-sexual touch & physical affection

00:23:59 – Why kids need to SEE your love, not just receive it

00:25:02 – Special edition: The Best of Us 30-Day Challenge

00:28:11 – Step 3: Make family dinners intentional & device-free

00:32:57 – Step 4: Weekly marriage nights (beyond TV time)

00:34:44 – Step 5: Yearly getaways & bucket list adventures together

00:37:24 – The danger of drifting apart slowly

00:39:34 – Kids notice everything—why your marriage is their model

00:41:26 – Final encouragement & invitation to reignite your spark