**Note: This episode explicitly discusses sexual violence.

Luna Matatas, a Sex and Pleasure educator, joins Mandi and Vanshika to chat about kink and BDSM. We talk about how some kinks have become mainstream in recent years (Hello, Fifty Shades of Grey!). We also talk about why people are so scared to talk about sex (yet have no issue slapping or choking a new partner without checking in first).

This episode explores the complexity of kink and BDSM as both a source of healing for people who have experienced sexual violence, and also how it is being weaponized to justify shitty behaviour (including sexual assault).

We shout out Emmy Tran’s Paint Your Own Booty art classes in Toronto - IG: @emmytran @paintyourownbooty

More about our guest:

Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience in sexual health and wellness internationally and locally. Her playful approach to sexuality draws on the creativity, confidence and communication skills we all need to fulfill our pleasure potentials. Luna is the creator of Peg the Patriarchy, Meditate Medicate Masturbate and Fuck Like a Goddess brands.

Luna and Mandi have a webinar available if you want to learn more about BDSM and the Law - “BDSM, Consent, and the Law” - Luna also offers a wide array of other courses about kink and consent on her website. Follow Luna on Instagram @lunamatatas.

If you have experienced sexual violence and are in need of additional support, use this directory to find a sexual assault centre or other relevant supports near you.

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Episode edited by Aerin Clayton IG: @aeclayton