In this episode of Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter, we explore that quiet, tender moment so many women reach in midlife, when you realise you don’t want to go back… but you’re not entirely sure who you’re becoming either.

This isn’t about blowing your life up or chasing a shiny new version of yourself. It’s about listening to the subtle knowing that the life you built still works, but no longer quite fits. The body has changed. The nervous system is louder. Old dreams have softened, and new ones are hovering, waiting to be acknowledged.

I share why traditional vision boards often feel heavy or triggering in midlife, and introduce the idea of a Becoming Board: a gentler, more honest way to anchor yourself to the woman you’re growing into now, not who you think you should be one day. We talk about slow growth, livable lives, and why this season asks us to become the architects of our own support.

In the Letters from Midlife segment, I respond to a listener who feels overwhelmed by future planning and caught between not wanting to shrink her life, but also not wanting to chase anymore. If vision boards leave you feeling behind, pressured, or disconnected, this conversation is for you.

This episode is an invitation to stop forcing clarity and start designing your next chapter from truth, feeling, and self-trust. The full Midlife Circle version of this piece goes deeper into how to actually live with your Becoming Board, not just make a beautiful collage. Check it out here.

You’re not drifting. You’re curating. And that changes everything.

For more slow rituals, gentle reminders, and reflections on becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com or join me on Substack at Kiransinghuk.substack.com.