Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity.

Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and how he continually chose purity in moments of temptation. Richard joins the conversation to challenge the false narrative that external factors—like women’s clothing or controlling environments—are the key to overcoming lust. Instead, the battle starts inside, and how you choose to see people, not as objects but as image-bearers of God.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The absurdity of outsourcing responsibility for your lust to others.
• Why changing how you view people is the real battle.
• Practical steps to take ownership and steward your thoughts and eyes.

It’s time to stop blaming others and start embracing the transformation of your mind. Tune in for a conversation that will shift your perspective on lust, temptation, and true freedom.

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“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…”
That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true.

In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love.

But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability to connect with real people.

Ruth brings a powerful and rarely-heard female perspective on how media marketed as “funny” or “romantic”—from American Pie to Twilight—shaped how she saw men, love, and her own worth.

We talk about:

• Why both men and women can objectify each other without even realizing it
• How porn rewires your brain—and makes healthy relationships harder
• The subtle ways shame keeps you guarded, self-protecting, and disconnected
• And how the gospel frees you to see others (and yourself) as God does: with love, curiosity, and grace.

If you're tired of relational pain, performance masks, or the fear that you’ll never be “enough” for someone—you need this episode.

🔥 Plus: Ruth and Eliana are launching a brand new coaching program for women ready to walk in freedom. DM them to learn more— @strewthrewth @always.daughter

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.”
But what if that’s not the whole truth?

In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle.

Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache underneath it all.
Not lust.
Not rebellion.
But a longing to be loved.
To be seen.
To be safe.

We talk about:

• Why women often don’t realize they’re caught in a porn cycle
• How shame keeps so many silent and stuck
• The real root behind feminine addiction—and how Jesus heals it
• Why freedom isn’t just for men… and how the gospel is better than behavior management

This is not just another conversation about purity. It’s a call to come home—to the truth that you are already loved, already worthy, already free in Christ.

💬 If you're a woman silently struggling with pornography, DM us. We’re exploring a coaching program just for you—by women, for women.

This is your moment to step into the light.
Let’s go there—together.

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you?

So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them. A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling.

In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shifts in the journey to freedom from pornography and shame:
You are not your thoughts.

Just like you aren’t your kidneys or your heartbeat, you’re not your brain’s random mental noise. You’re the observer. And once you stop taking every thought personally, freedom becomes your new normal.

Inside this episode:

• Why Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount don’t mean every lustful thought is your identity
• How to separate random brain static from the real “you” in Christ
• The science of inputs and how years of porn exposure still echo—but don’t define you
• A simple mindset shift that defuses shame and puts you back in control
• How we help men in our coaching program take thoughts captive without legalism or fear

If your thought life has been the final stronghold keeping you in shame, this episode is your jailbreak.

📥 Want personal help walking this out?
DM Richard or Justin to see how the Free from Porn Coaching Experience can help you finally renew your mind—and walk like someone who’s already free.

In this episode of Free from Porn, Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame.

We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved?

Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful gospel truth, we expose how shame speaks — “What’s wrong with you?” “You should’ve known better” — and why it never leads to lasting transformation. You'll hear how a single word of belief from a mother, or unexpected kindness from a father-in-law, can spark the courage to walk a new path.

This episode isn’t just about recognizing shame — it’s about replacing it with the voice of the Father who rejoices over you with singing, even in your worst moment. The God who turns shame into praise.

If you’ve been stuck in silence, guilt, and self-hatred, this conversation might be the beginning of your breakthrough.

📩 Got questions or want to talk? DM me. You’re not alone — and freedom is your new normal.

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ?

This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear.

If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation will flip that entire narrative on its head. You’ll discover:

• Why God puts you in Christ—and why you can’t get yourself out.
• How your unwanted urges don’t define your desires.
• Why tension is actually a sign of your freedom, not your failure.
• How to stop reacting to temptation and start responding from the truth of who you are.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels stuck in the cycle of guilt, shame, and anxiety—thinking they’ve somehow fallen out of God’s grace.

Freedom isn’t fragile. It’s your new normal.

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering.

Through Chiefs football analogies, victory laps, and the not-so-already-but-actually-already victory of Jesus, they unpack why so many Christians are stuck battling something that's already been defeated. You don’t have to fight for victory. You get to live from it.

This episode is for you if you’ve been caught in the exhausting cycle of fighting urges, thinking you're still in a war that’s already over.

The game’s over. Time to take a knee.

Cold plunges make you watch porn?
That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue, willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think.

Join Richard and Justin as they dive into:

• Why your willpower isn’t your problem
• How decision fatigue sneaks up on you
• The surprising link between cold plunges, late-night Amazon shopping, and your porn habits
• Why it’s not about having more fruit—it’s about knowing you have the orchard

This episode is packed with stories, laughs, and a powerful truth:
You don’t need more self-control.
You already have the Source living in you.

Tune in now to break free from the hustle, the struggle, and the scarcity mindset for good.